What does being “In The Moment” really mean?

Today I made a fantastic distinction around Diversity = Dynamic

One of the challenges of sharing ideas in family, team, and community – is we can experience control or get upset and regularly come away feeling confused by another person’s strong point of view around systems, a project or start-ups. I believe this is attributed to our different styles of thinking, not learning. We each go through our own unique thought process to come up with our interpretation of a situation.

These interpretations are expressed by the way our personal neuro pathways are fired up in the brain; an array of electrical impulses and connections that help you to express yourself. And yes, I know we have all heard about all the different learning styles, but this is different.

What I am talking about here is “how do we stay present with each other without being dominated by one person’s particular thinking process?” I believe the reason for all the discord or control in relationships, be they personal or professional and even cultural and community are due to this very thing.

I term this behaviour ‘the thinking wars’ – Dominance = Disconnect.

However, where we need to move to as a species is – Diversity = Dynamic

And of course this all sounds good on paper or on a wiz bang power point, but how do we do it in real time, real life? We must be willing to cross the bridge with one another, we literally have to drop out of our thinking for a moment or two and connect to the intelligence of our heart.

If each person present can accept that the only way they can truly understand each other and make a valuable contribution, is through a genuine heart to heart connection, this is in fact what empowers people. Because the real power is when and where lasting trust is built. Truth is, we are never going to really understand the way another person thinks because we are not that person.

Moreover, we most certainly can connect with each other through our aligned values, which are born from the heart.

Our aligned values are what make up the unbreakable connections, which can form this powerful and effective Diversity = Dynamic bridge.

The new wave of relationship in business is emerging: where people adopt a very different, but progressive model of teamwork… Because it will be through our surrender to the power of the heart that we will experience the benefits of cordial collaboration, social synergy, cohesive community and contributing more than money.

So, my dear humans take heed…

HEART to HEART CONNECTION is the currency of the FUTURE. 

The great news is, we all have one!

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WHY we need STORY

animals-avian-beach-760984We long for connection with all that is curious and creative.

We are creatures who belong to each other for reasons beyond analysis, for it is our heart’s desire and our life’s dream to fulfill a worthy story.

We ache with a need to connect and create or sadly the other is we become numb and silently indifferent.

Yet it is the never-ending and renewed STORY that is forever wanting to grow through us… I urge you, dear storytellers of our time, to be at one with its magical forces. For in truth there is nothing but Story, it is what teaches us and what sustains us as human beings. STORY informs our purpose, but more importantly, it gives humanity its Soul.

– Elizabeth Ellames

Do you have a story wanting to grow through you?

THE ARTIST

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THE ARTIST – Creates COMMUNITY/TRIBE

Some other choices in this category are Designer, Painter, Musician and Poet. Through your expression of life as an Artist you create tribes or followers that form community. This is how you grow your style of leadership. It is through your followers/community that you can see how your visions and artistic talents as a new style leader benefit others. By simply sharing your talent, art or craft, your community then starts to enroll others to support your leadership and vision as their own.

Community Needs Your Leadership.                                                                    

Is your job the same as your purpose?

Our Collective Vision Broadens And Strengthens Our Horizons…

Practice CO-CREATION

Invest in your own work and invest your time being with other co-creators. Develop innovations and systems that build connectivity. Find joy in your community efforts that you share with others because your life purpose is expressed through your ability to co-create.

Good relationships, build good leadership.

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Who knows you, really?

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Become A Social Entrepreneur Connector 

Home truth coming your way… I haven’t always been the best at the whole networking thing. I use to think, if I always do my best the business will come. Well that does work to some degree, but the truth is good networking does work and great networking rocks!!!

The thought of networking at conferences and industry events can make some social entrepreneurs a little bored, twitchy or even nervous to say the least. But if you go into it feeling that uncomfortable, your results will be mediocre. Attending “Great Connecting Events” are a major part of being a successful entrepreneur, so it’s in your best interest to get being really, really good at it…

Its time to learn how to be a spectacular “Tribe-Talker”

Here is a simple format to help you make valuable connections and find ways to unleash your expressive, dynamic and passionate tribe-talker within.

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1. Ideas = Intention

Identify your intention before you even get to your event.

What are you looking to get out of the event?
Are you there to generate leads?
What kind of people do you want to meet?
Which speakers do you want to connect with?

2. Integrity = Identity

Leave your intrusive elevator pitch at home.

Remember you’re not there to close a sale. Avoid selling yourself and telling everyone why your product or service is the best. Instead, ask everyone you speak to… “Is there anything I can do to help your operation.” This generous approach will leave an impression that ensures they’ll answer your phone call or email after the event.

This display of “Generosity of Spirit” starts to build your relationship for future discussions. Don’t forget to follow up with everyone. Make contact within 72 hours of the event. This keeps your encounter fresh in peoples minds.

3. Passion = Purpose

Don’t sound robotic. Let your true personality shine through. Be authentic.

Building 4 or 5 meaningful connections is better than collecting 30 business cards from people you wont speak to again. Sprouting off your script-like spiel might get you a business card, but probably just to make you go away.

Take time to be fully present in your conversations and remember your follow up time after the event is important. Those “being totally present conversations” can often lead to valuable business opportunities.

4. Leadership = Leverage

Be heard and seen.

Nobody is going to remember you unless you are engaging. If you are at a conference make an effort to ask at least one question during the Q&A session following each presentation. Not an empty question with no real purpose – it needs to be an interaction of authenticity and intelligent. This is a great way to get on the radar of everyone in the room. People will approach you to connect and will initiate conversation. If you seem even a little savvy around a topic, you become attractive, a magnet that can pull in contacts from many directions.

5. Diversity = Dynamic

Team up with a people who compliment your flaws and strengths.

It’s always easier when you have others on your team – it gives you extra confidence and if you select your networking partners carefully you can make sure you are equipped with people who make up for your shortcomings.

For instance, if you are a bit of a risk taker or change agent partner up with someone that is a people pleaser and mentor. Let them open up some conversations and introduce you to bring it home and make new connections. And equally, you can support them when need be, with your unique strengths.

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You attend networking events and conferences to make valuable connections, right? Use this simple format to make sure you make the most out of every event you attend.

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Do we have more than one tribe?

 

You become more of who you’re meant to be, by sharing yourself authentically with others.

Becoming more of “who you know you really are” and making your greatest contribution through sharing your gifts is all about finding your team; your tribe.

It’s less about running a solo race and more about trusting in others to support what you want to do and be in life.

Many of us have spent years struggling in isolation, trying to break away from old patterns.

You may have a deep and passionate desire to deliver your true creativity to the world.

You may appear to have wonderfully supportive friends and family members, but your inner experience still feels like you are alone.

And often part of the problem is that you may beat yourself up for not being able to do it alone.

What if these challenges to your true potential weren’t caused by any personal inadequacy, but rather was the result of not having enough real support in your life.

Real support looks like this –

1. Being with people who know where you’re coming from.

2. Being with people who also share their authentic self with you.

3. Being with people who celebrate your wins and understand that mistakes are also essential to living a socially and spiritually fulling life.

 

Steves 7 Golden Rules

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The Steve Jobs’ phenomena touched nearly every aspect of IT life; computers, movies, music and mobile. As a personal brand consultant I have observed Jobs presentation, values and style many times over – his unwavering commitment to creating quality was very inspiring. Perhaps Steve Jobs’ greatest legacy is the set of principles that drove his success.

Lets look deeper into the life and career of Steve Jobs’…

Here’s my view on his 7 golden rules and values underpinning his success.

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Any of us can adopt them to unleash our “creative master” within.

1. Do what you love. Steve Jobs once said, “People with passion can change the world for the better.” When asked about the advice he would offer new entrepreneurs, he said, “I’d get a job as a busboy or something until I figured out what I was really passionate about.” That’s how much it meant to him.

Passion is everything.

2. Put a dent in the universe. Steve Jobs believed in the power of vision. He once asked then-Pepsi President, John Sculley, “Do you want to spend your life selling sugar-water or do you want to change the world?”

Don’t lose sight of the big vision.

3. Make connections. Steve Jobs once said creativity is connecting things. What he meant was people with a broad set of life experiences can often see things that others miss. He took calligraphy classes that didn’t have any practical use in his life – until he built the Macintosh. Jobs traveled to India and Asia. He studied design and hospitality.

Don’t live your life in a bubble. Connect ideas from different fields.

4. Say no to 1,000 things. Steve Jobs was as proud of what Apple chose not to do as he was of what Apple did do. When he returned to Apple in 1997, he took a company with 350 products and reduced them to 10 products in a two-year period. Why? So he could put the “A-Team” on each product.

What are you saying “no” to?

5. Create insanely different experiences. Steve Jobs also sought innovation in the customer-service experience. When he first came up with the concept for the Apple Stores, he said they would be different because instead of just moving boxes, the stores would enrich lives. Everything about the experience you have when you walk into an Apple store is intended to enrich your life and to create an emotional connection between you and the Apple brand.

What are you doing to enrich the lives of your tribe/community/audience?

6. Master the message. You can have the greatest idea in the world, but if you can’t communicate your ideas, it doesn’t matter. Jobs was the world’s greatest corporate storyteller.

Instead of simply delivering a presentation like most people do, he informed, he educated, he inspired and he entertained, all in one presentation.

7. Sell dreams, not products. Jobs captured our imagination because he really understood his tribe/audience. He knew that tablets would not capture our imaginations if they were too complicated. The result? One button on the front of an iPad. It’s so simple, a 2-year-old can use it. Your tribe don’t care about your product. They care about how it makes them feel and if it connects to their hopes and ambitions.

Jobs taught us that if you help your tribe/audience reach their dreams, you’ll win them over… that’s what a TribeTalker© is. They’re someone who believes in what you believe in and have simular values; your from the same tribe.

And when you connect to a brand at that level you share your enthusiasm with others and demonstrate your gratitude. You organicly become a devoted TribeTalker©… just like I’m doing right now.

I love every thing about my MAC, because it connects me to what I stands for, which is beauty, quality, creativity and truth. That is why I am a TribeTalker© for Steve Jobs and iMac… thats just how it works.

We are what we share… and we share if we care! That’s the TribeTalker© creed.

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There’s a great story that sums up Steve Jobs’ career at Apple. An executive who had the job of reinventing the Disney Store once called up Jobs and asked for advice.

His advice was… DREAM BIGGER. (Steve was like Walt in so many ways) I think that’s the best advice he could leave us with.

Our motto at Real Deal seminars is… Dream It, Create it, Feel it, Live it.

I lend a quote from Steve’s huge success – “See the genius in your craziness, believe in yourself, believe in your vision, and be constantly prepared to defend those ideas.”

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