What does being “In The Moment” really mean?

Today I made a fantastic distinction around Diversity = Dynamic

One of the challenges of sharing ideas in family, team, and community – is we can experience control or get upset and regularly come away feeling confused by another person’s strong point of view around systems, a project or start-ups. I believe this is attributed to our different styles of thinking, not learning. We each go through our own unique thought process to come up with our interpretation of a situation.

These interpretations are expressed by the way our personal neuro pathways are fired up in the brain; an array of electrical impulses and connections that help you to express yourself. And yes, I know we have all heard about all the different learning styles, but this is different.

What I am talking about here is “how do we stay present with each other without being dominated by one person’s particular thinking process?” I believe the reason for all the discord or control in relationships, be they personal or professional and even cultural and community are due to this very thing.

I term this behaviour ‘the thinking wars’ – Dominance = Disconnect.

However, where we need to move to as a species is – Diversity = Dynamic

And of course this all sounds good on paper or on a wiz bang power point, but how do we do it in real time, real life? We must be willing to cross the bridge with one another, we literally have to drop out of our thinking for a moment or two and connect to the intelligence of our heart.

If each person present can accept that the only way they can truly understand each other and make a valuable contribution, is through a genuine heart to heart connection, this is in fact what empowers people. Because the real power is when and where lasting trust is built. Truth is, we are never going to really understand the way another person thinks because we are not that person.

Moreover, we most certainly can connect with each other through our aligned values, which are born from the heart.

Our aligned values are what make up the unbreakable connections, which can form this powerful and effective Diversity = Dynamic bridge.

The new wave of relationship in business is emerging: where people adopt a very different, but progressive model of teamwork… Because it will be through our surrender to the power of the heart that we will experience the benefits of cordial collaboration, social synergy, cohesive community and contributing more than money.

So, my dear humans take heed…

HEART to HEART CONNECTION is the currency of the FUTURE. 

The great news is, we all have one!

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TEL: 040 330 9696
elizabeth.ellames@ozemail.com.au

Are you a Connector, a Collaborator or a Cultivator?

Connectors, Collaborators and Cultivators are great Community Builders…

Do you long to move beyond the competitive, win-lose culture of the past into a joyful and prosperous future where community is our number one priority?

You are not alone! There’s global evidence of a new trend emerging in humanity – They are the Connectors, Collaborators and the Cultivators. So what is a Connector, Collaborator a Cultivator?

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They are the Community First Leaders of our time! 

They are an emerging group who bypass surface values to a whole new way of engaging and working with others, based on contribution, respect, and unity. The Connector, The Collaborator and The Cultivator relinquishes the need for power over others and celebrates the emergence of authentic partnership in all domains, offering a more collaborative, and ultimately more powerful and balanced way of live.

These new archetypes are ironically at our very roots and also the next wave of humanity’s evolution. As humans we have a DEEP need to belong. – It’s part of who we are and where we come from and this need goes all the way back to our cave-dwelling ancestors. We knew that safety in numbers was key to our survival. The only way to stay protected from being attacked and eaten was if you were part of a tribe, a community. Back then if you found yourself alone or abandoned by your community, you’d literally die. – Feeling like we belong is vital to our mental health because it is linked to our instincts to survive.

When was the last time you felt like you truly belonged somewhere?

Do you feel like you belong in your family or in your community or maybe an online community? – Think about that for a moment.

To be honest with you, belonging has often felt a bit of a challenge for me… My parents divorced when I was five and there were no brothers or sisters for me to learn from. If you have siblings I’m sure you know what I mean, I’m talking about those intense emotional battles that siblings have with each other, well, I never got to work through that stuff.

I spent a lot of time on my own; of coarse I also had friends that were truly valuable members of my community, but my belonging challenges still surfaced because there were always those times when friendships folded. Which set up patterns of feeling alone and not belonging, simply because there were no brothers or sisters for me at home as my backup.

This is why I am such a strong advocate of The Connector, The Collaborator and The Cultivator archetypes — and why I love being a Cultivator myself and why having Collaborators and Connectors in my life is wonderful. Having people on your team and in your life that really believe in the power of community before everything else is gold.

The Connector, The Collaborator and The Cultivator are also the builders of community…

So, I invite you to stop and look around you and see how The Connector, The Collaborator and Cultivator are surfacing everywhere today — in business, in our personal relationships and in solutions to change humanity’s greatest challenges and as we embrace the full power of these new archetypes, we can grow into our full potential as human beings.

I encourage you to say, “Yes!” to fully participating in community first, without an agenda – We often think we’ll join a community because we want to make business contacts , etc. Those days are GONE – when you understand the true essence of community practice you get to experience that all the other is taken care of organically — and another key factor to remember is the QUALITY of the community is more important, not the quantity of the community.

And your Souls need for community is more important than anything else.

 

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Our Story Creates Identity And Connection

Storytelling is the way we build our identity as human beings. And the weavers of those stories come in the form of traditional archetypes.

Ultimately the memories we choose to tell form carefully placed scenes of our story; which then inform our life purpose.

We are what we share and we only share if we care –

So, it’s simply inappropriate to brush off our experiences as dull or insignificant. How we choose to connect to our stories is what makes an interesting meaningful story arc.

What we choose to say and share is extremely important, whether its last weeks school graduation as a meaningful event, the birth of a child or the death of a loved one as a turning point, it doesn’t matter what the event, but rather it’s the essence, the emotion, the spirit that’s expressed about the moment that really matters.

Finding a genuine, formative moment in your story is always going to be a powerful and valuable contribution to your reader or audience. Our stories are what teach us and guide us toward our humanity.

Do you have a story that needs to be shared?

A Creative And Transformative Process

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Cinema is an experience we have together.

Perfect description about the screening FACES of CLAY held on March 14th, 2019 – written by CHERIE ROWETT of Heart Choice Enterprises who was our brilliant and charming MC for the night.

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“This week I had the absolute pleasure of MCing the inaugural screening of a short film titled Faces of Clay by Elizabeth Ellames and Harvey Newland-Harman. The film captures the creative and transformative process involved in making some of the art pieces for The Art of Being Human exhibition in the 2019 Adelaide Fringe Festival. The art exhibition was a project developed by Serafina Tané to strengthen community and collaboration in Adelaide CBD.

The remarkable sculptures produced by Scott Eames for the exhibition were the focus of the film “Faces of Clay”, and were on display in the foyer of The Mercury cinema on the night. To hear in the film the life stories of Angela, Wolf, Bushy, and Jill, who were the subjects of the sculptures, was to be granted powerful insights into human vulnerability and human resilience alike.

Each of the sculptures will now reside in agencies that assist people through the most fragile times – Hutt St Centre, MOSH, Catherine House and Baptistcare. My sincere congratulations to the artists and everyone involved in the art exhibition for your talent and commitment to strengthening community, to Scott Eames for your amazing sculpting talents, and to Elizabeth and Harvey – the “Faces of Clay” filming and production team – for your commitment to telling stories that matter with such beautiful technique and tenderness.

The night was complete with original live music from Souzi and the Cool Mints in the foyer before the screening, a tastefully run auction by Dale Gray, and the great audience. It was indeed a memorable evening of connection and celebration, and I have much gratitude for being invited to MC the event.”

WHY we need STORY

animals-avian-beach-760984We long for connection with all that is curious and creative.

We are creatures who belong to each other for reasons beyond analysis, for it is our heart’s desire and our life’s dream to fulfill a worthy story.

We ache with a need to connect and create or sadly the other is we become numb and silently indifferent.

Yet it is the never-ending and renewed STORY that is forever wanting to grow through us… I urge you, dear storytellers of our time, to be at one with its magical forces. For in truth there is nothing but Story, it is what teaches us and what sustains us as human beings. STORY informs our purpose, but more importantly, it gives humanity its Soul.

– Elizabeth Ellames

Do you have a story wanting to grow through you?

Learning from a Master

As a Business Culture and Story-Based Branding Consultant, my role is to help people or businesses gain clarity about the ‘real deal’ value and message of their brand; the STORY and the PURPOSE.

These are the four topics I cover in my signature branding process –

  • The CULTURE of your brand invites your audience to engage and quickly becomes a place or experience that makes them feel like they belong.
  • The ESSENCE of your brand is a perfected backstory; an experience that people relate to and want to share with others.
  • The SPIRIT of your brand is the genuine ‘life force’ that you bring to it; the ‘magic elixir’ that people connect to that makes them feel alive.
  • The VALUE of your brand is your ability to be of service, and how that adds value to the lives of others.

But today I want to share this interesting documentary about one of my hero’s; Walt Disney. Walt was indeed a genius when it came to branding and that was because he was super clear around his values and vision. Enjoy and learn from a master of his craft … and a real innovation “tech wiz” as well. 

Featuring interviews with various Disney Legends and Historians, Great Big Beautiful Tomorrow looks at the various technologies Walt Disney used and developed over the course of his life. From creating the first sync sound animation in 1928 to his unrealized dream of E.P.C.O.T., an experimental city that passed on with him in 1966, this film shows Walt Disney as the futurist he truly was.

What are​ Attention and Intention?

What does it take to perfect clarity again and again throughout your life?

It takes “CLARITY of INTENTION” – which simply means placing your attention on how your personality and skill set can add value to the lives of others. It also requires tuning in with the same enthusiasm, heart to heart connection, vulnerability, and openness that you felt at the time of your project’s inception, and then be willing to listen to and observe any synchronicities that present themselves.

Attention and Intention are how you build quality RESONANCE – this means cultivating alignment, hovering around it, reclaiming it and correcting and transforming your behavior again and again – plus watching with honesty and compassion to the what, why and how of all your actions.

You must totally trust that the Unified Field, Your Future Self, and Your Spirit has been informing you of your role as a co-creator in all that you have been creating.

Being in synch with the larger intention (The Field) – will give you the courage to open your heart and mind to social innovation, to speak out even when you are the only person in the room with that perception.

Don’t doubt what you are supposed to be doing – when you align your values and motives to serve the “greater creative impulse”, you begin to see it’s actually facilitating you.

That doesn’t mean you don’t occasionally lose hope, clarity, or inner peace. However it does mean that you know how to regain it, and it always comes down to tuning into something greater than yourself and aligning with the creative impulse, which is moving in the same direction, accompanying you as you go.

How do you achieve this? – By simply meditating each morning for 15 – 60 minutes a day before doing anything else. Contemplating, tuning in, asking, listening and waiting until you are fully relaxed and grateful before you get up and begin the rest of your day. I know that might seem like a long time for some people, but the results are worth it.

You could look at it this way time = live not money – and your Future Self requires you to create some uninterrupted Time and Space each day to ensure you continue to have Clarity of Intention – I encourage you to decided that approximately 4 hours in a week of 168 hours, isn’t really much to contribute to gain the clarity of intention and a deep sense of connection you need to keep on purpose. Also recognizing that the “peak” synchronistic events that you have experienced in life, along with your daily meditation help you maintain your resonance, which in turn allows these synchronistic events to keep occurring organically.

Acknowledging these experiences is a reminder of what’s possible – choose to be in this resonance as often as you possibly can: A co-creative, connected, clear place where your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, conversations and actions are all aligned with your purpose.

Here is a short verse to use when seeking guidance around your co-creation and purpose.

Dear Future Self…

Please show me if this project I want to initiate or be a part of is part of a greater creative impulse, which is authentically correcting and transforming our world – and directly moving toward…

SYNERGY, PEACE, LOVE, PROSPERITY and UNITY.

If it is, I am happy to be an instrument of this conscious evolution and I will generously use my personal empowerment to serve this larger vision. I simply need to know this isn’t just me doing something willfully, independent of a larger purpose and intention.

 

 

The Value Of Connecting Face To Face

“We succeed when we help others succeed” this is the Unite Your Light WOMEN motto and actually is one of my motto’s in life. 

Thursday 8th of Dec 2016 was our first event at The Lion Hotel – And I am delighted to say it showed signs of being a very valuable meet up for women who want to shine a light on their story, their strengths, their success and their spirit. #UniteYourLightWOMEN Thank you to all who attended and I look forward to allowing our heartfelt intentions to grow into wonderful and valuable ventures. Elizabeth Ellames

If you choose to come along to our next event… here are a series of backstory questions that could really add depth and value to your brand and pitch.

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These simple questions are to be asked and answered quickly:

Who am I –

  • Where was I born?
  • Where do I come from?
  • Who is my family?
  • What is my background/my family identity?
  • What am I grateful for?
  • What and who have made me who I am?

What’s my experience –

  • What am I inspired and motivated by?
  • What am I passionate about?
  • What work have I done?
  • What have I had to overcome, and what are my triumphs?

How do I add value –

  • What am I good at?
  • What are my special skills?
  • Why do people love me, and what do I do to maintain that?
  • What has made me unique and exceptional?
  • What kind of attitude do I have?
  • What can I do for others?
  • What makes me successful that is not about my technical or professional experience?

Being real matters and “Your Story” creates your value.

So, learn to be comfortable with sharing your story and values, because that’s what people connect to and also what they share.

Elizabeth Ellames – Tel: 040 330 9696

  www.livingattributes.com

Imagine

Dear Ones…

To those who are here working to create a better world, we stand in shock horrified at the attacks on Paris, I hear and feel the pain of my dear friends and family… as my Soul courageously witnesses my own human heart weeping and breaking open with deep sorrow. I write these words because I don’t know what else to do.

My spirit is so sad, but strong, because I know I must share my promise to humanity. I watched the Sun come up this morning and reflected on the fact that we are one Planet; warmed by our one Sun and we are given the opportunity to connect to our feelings through our one heart in our one body. And that all these things that appear to be separate are in fact all connected.

That is why I feel sad and strong at the same time, even though I am thousands of miles away from Paris, I can still feel the sorrow and urgency for change and healing – simply because we are all connected. And my heart is breaking because my Spirit is asking me to open my heart even more and allow more love to pour forth on to the world.

My breaking heart is calling me to never, never give up on the power of Love – And never give up my Freedom.

THE ARTIST

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THE ARTIST – Creates COMMUNITY/TRIBE

Some other choices in this category are Designer, Painter, Musician and Poet. Through your expression of life as an Artist you create tribes or followers that form community. This is how you grow your style of leadership. It is through your followers/community that you can see how your visions and artistic talents as a new style leader benefit others. By simply sharing your talent, art or craft, your community then starts to enroll others to support your leadership and vision as their own.

Community Needs Your Leadership.