How to live an extraordinary life?

There’s lots of information out there today about how important it is to have a vibrant personal and professional brand?

But what does that really mean?

And how do you get there? 

I have explored years of personal development with my clients and on myself, but nothing beats applying “The Process Of Story” – It is indeed the most powerful personal development and branding exercise I have ever experience.

The real secret to developing a great brand is indeed ‘Owning the value of your STORY’ because it’s your story that informs your purpose, and it’s your purpose that informs your brand, in fact, your brand is your purpose!

This is my story of how I changed my life for the better… how I moved from a ‘nice life’ to an ‘extraordinary life’ enriched with mastery.

I Committed To Knowing My Self – I first needed to really know what my gifts were, which required identifying my archetypical patterning. Because it was through the process of recognizing my archetypes and values that I learned who I really was, which then lead to what I had to offer.

I Decided To Trust My Self – The next step was clarifying my shadow attributes and in doing so, I began to trust myself even more, by highlighting some of these attributes I started to see where I had been operating out of alignment. In a nutshell, I got to see in my life what was working and what wasn’t working, which gave me the clarity and courage to correct and transform persistent and unproductive behaviors. This new practice accelerated my trust in myself and built a lasting confidence in the benefits of my new awareness and actions. I began to see how everything in life was connected. 

I Discovered My Story – I created a gentle pause in my current life so I could reflect on my life gone by, and wholeheartedly began to write my story – Where I had come from and who had contributed to my life, both good and bad. I took time over it, making sure what came forth was indeed leading me to see why I was here, where gifts would be of value and who I could best serve.

I Discovered My Purpose – I then got very specific about what, why, who and how I was going to add value and by the way, this is everyone’s purpose is in life; to add value. I know that sounds too simple, but its been my experience over and over again that people who have a desire to be on purpose also want to add value to our world, they seem to go hand in hand. I then developed a personal brand that was all about quality, initiative, and consistency. I devotedly attended to defining and refining my self- exploration, which essentially revealed my true value.

I Began To Live A Larger Story – I confidently made the decision to live a larger story, because I knew I had dreams, desires and a healthy dose of direction. I also knew I wanted to step up and step out as a new style leader. Once I’d established where I could add value to the world and why I was the best person for that role, the rest followed naturally. Now I’m not saying its always-smooth sailing or I didn’t come face to face with a few emotional challenges. Because I did – that’s the nature of our human experience and we all know that a really good story requires plenty of colour, emotion, and texture to make it truly interesting.

So, that is how I got extremely clear on what I am here to do and how I want to spend my time; my life.

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What about you, have you made some valuable distinctions about your brand?

Being YOU!

Being the best YOU eliminates competition and comparisons. The truth is no one can be better at being you, than you!

I have been in the business of helping people identify their authentic self for well over 20 years. It’s been indeed a powerful, rewarding, challenging, and revealing process and I say that with absolute love and compassion.

  • I’ll also add my experience on this journey of self-discovery was the number one issue for most people that I’ve worked with is the limiting core belief of “not being good enough”.
  • This is often masked by what some call “the imposter syndrome”, whose flipside is “I have to be better than everyone else to be accepted”.

The problem with this thinking is one never reaches or even feels their potential for long enough to really grow their inner culture because their true potential lies within themselves and when someone is constantly viewing themselves from an external comparison their inner culture, their magnificence (light) starts to fade away.

So when I say… Being the best YOU eliminates competition and comparisons, I am suggesting you cant do it by looking outside yourself, you must go within. Being the best you is always going to be an inside job, sure we can use tools/practices to aid in that process and that’s why I created the tools I have for people. But the looking outside yourself is really for one reason only… to genuinely connect with other human beings.

Not for the purpose of gain or to copy them or even be better than them. Its to unite with them so we can ALL shine brighter. Of course, I’m not saying we don’t learn from each other because that’s a given.

However, what I am pointing out is “what’s the intention, desire, and motivation behind that need to learn from others?” In a world where we are made to think you have to “be the best” to get ahead, it’s no wonder people have adopted these destructive and disempowering ideas and become blind to the needs of their inner personal culture, essence, spirit, and value.

The truth is no one can be better at being you, than you! You then see that there is no competition, it’s just a figment of your imagination.

So, I will say it again… no one can be better at being you, than you! Which invites the question, Who are YOU?

Oh yeah… Its Christmas

Well it is that time of the year again… Christmas.

Some people love it, others hate it and others just do it.

Which category do you fall under?

I like to view my Christmas as a sacred time, a time to celebrate all I have achieved in terms of correcting and transforming my life.

The Christmas Tree in our home is likened to the Tree of Life and its decorations are seen as symbolic gestures, which mark different eras in our time together as a family. The trimming of the tree and making the Christmas Pudding are a tradition that are always upheld with much delight.

Of course both of these practices are common place in many homes, and can often lose meaning, so for me I feel it is important to add our own family culture to the mix. We can slip into the empty habit of just doing a job and moving on to the next task at hand. That is indeed the way of our busy world. But Christmas marks a time in the year to truly create, celebrate and contribute.

I encourage you to embrace Christmas with delight:

Create the space in your life to be creative.

Celebrate and share the joy in your heart with your family, friends and community.

Contribute in ways that add value, come to the table with a gift that really counts; your “generosity of spirit”. It is worth so much more than anything you can buy. Start a heartfelt conversation and initiate acts of kindness where judgement would usually be.

These simple unity based principles are what Christmas is really about… The birth of the Holy Child is alive in every human being. And Christmas is a wonderful time to celebrate our life together as children of our Holy Mother, Planet Earth.

We can be restful and respectful as we unite, and in this sacred union we are reminded that we are The Holy Family.

And would like to also add that the video below of Happy Christmas by John and Yoko was released in 1971 – And we do indeed need to be living the mantra “war is over, if you want it!”.

Time and change are our constant reminder that nothing stays the same. They bring home the heartfelt memories of what really matter to us in our life.

May PEACE be your heartfelt intention this Christmas and everyday. We can use our collective consciousness to create PEACE, before we charge our glasses and say Merry Christmas, perhaps we could share a heart to heart prayer for real PEACE on EARTH.

I choose to be the REAL DEAL this Christmas and Unite My Light where ever I can for PEACE….

Are you connected?

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Create COMMUNITY

Community is where you build your style of leadership. It is through your community that you see how your vision and talents as a new style leader benefit others. By creating a community you are enrolling others to support your leadership and vision as well as their own.

Community needs leadership.

Trust + Truth = Unity

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Learning the importance of being connected and staying connected with people with whom you resonate with, is in fact what builds an effective community.

Trust + Truth = Unity

And It’s through our frequency of interaction and transparency, which eventually creates true prosperity. This is our new currency that also leads to greater levels of human resources.

At this level of connection, we enter a higher level of possibility and creativity, which is the nature and desire of the TribeTalker.

The only intention of the TribeTalker is to reach higher ground. They are the forward-thinking business owners, life coaches, trainers, students, presenters, and entrepreneurs, who want to see a change in our world by genuinely helping each other succeed.

Do you want to highlight your talents and promote your personal brand, through the power of edifying and unifying people?

If so, you are indeed part of this emerging breed of new style leaders.

Elizabeth is excited to be the facilitator of an authentic and amazing new way of being in a relationship, business and community.

We show you how your ability to share your life experiences with others gives you clarity and confidence to effectively share other people’s stories, which creates a currency between people that promotes true prosperity. This new way of being takes us out of the old Silo paradigm that promotes scarcity to a new and vibrant Tribe paradigm that promotes there is always enough, if we share.

And I genuinely believe we need to thank our bright new generation of individuals for this shift, they have arrived at the table with the thought provoking message…

“I don’t care what you know, until I know that you care”.

What a great way to live in relationship, business and community, which fits perfectly with the TribeTalkers creed of “We are what we share and we share if we care”

Look forward to meeting you at one of our events in the future 🙂

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Elizabeth Ellames

Moving from Me to We

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As we lift the veil of separation among women, what do we see?

Unfortunately, the first thing we see is fear, fear of loss, fear of control and fear of being left behind. We are in conflict with our self, we have fought for our liberation and here in the west, I believe we have achieved it. We are socially liberated but on the level of consciousness, we are not. We are still trying to find what our true liberty means, which of course comes from our inner belief systems. We now suffer from our internal conditioning rather than external conditions. It’s time to set our self free, free from all the behaviors our ancestral grandmother’s adopted in order to survive, these thought processes no longer serve us, its time to grant our self true freedom.

Is it time for women to stop competing for position and unite?

We are more than ready to bring forth the New Woman, our souls want to connect heart to heart and together dream a brand new day. The way of the past has weighed heavy on our hearts and we didn’t really know what was causing it. I believe the constant threat of competition has caused most of the destructive family and social behaviors among women. Today we have many choices and opportunities that bring us closer to our true potential. We know deep in our bellies that we are encoded with the power of unity. Where there is competition there is no innovation, but where there is innovation coupled with unity there is valuable momentum.

Are we responsible for our conditioned behavior?

Our conditioned behavior is an inbuilt protection system passed down from earlier generations, but now that system has become inappropriate for its environment. A bit like an old operating system on your computer, as soon as you know there is a new operating system available, everything about the old one seems to be irritating and slow. We can keep putting up with the old system or simply uploading the new one. Its all about responsibility; the ability to respond – It’s just a matter of choice and perseverance. The key for me is to keep uploading my New We Operating System. It works every time!

Are you ready to move from a ME reality to a WE reality?

Please share…

 

Goodbye to Gossip

 

Hello Integrity….. Dear old gossip has become an addiction for many women.

It is seductive and builds an unhealthy intimacy among women, which creates false security. I believe the female species will come to a place of contentment when this persistent obstacle is corrected and transformed.

Gossip is connected to these four faces of addiction.

  • boredom
  • competition
  • drama
  • low self-esteem

Realizing this is the first step to healing the addiction – from there we can choose to participate in it or not.

It is said the point of power is in the present and poor old Gossip is never in the present she is always going on about what was said or happened in the past. She weaves her words for the purpose of separation, which create a divide in friendships, family and community.

Gossip keeps everyone small and is always driven by fear. Women have relied on gossip to define their position in society and culture for centuries, but it is not necessary anymore. Women now have the opportunity to rise up out of this unproductive damaging behavior and create a new and prosperous culture for all women.

Gossip is a shadow deity whose time and face has come to an end. She has upgraded to the face of “Integrity”, who is evolving into the New Woman, the New Humanity and therefore there is no place for these old behaviors.

I say it is time to put our temptation to spread rumors to bed and start being more creative with our female conversations, after all, we are extremely creative beings.

For the record, the gossip on me is “why does she always have to be… so in ya’ face” well my response to that is – at least it’s to your face and not behind your back and bitchin’ in the kitchen so to speak.

Guess it all started with that wicked old queen in the story of Snow White who’s famous last words were “Mirror, Mirror on the wall who’s the fairest of them all” now she had a serious bitchin’ addiction.

Hope you can take this refreshing idea into your relationships and watch them bloom into something far greater than girly catch ups.

 

Living With Desire

 

It’s imperative that we bring forth our soul’s greatest desires.

Our life is a gift not to be squandered and if we pick only one true heartfelt desire to achieve in our outer world and only one heartfelt desire to achieve in our inner world, we can aid in the betterment of the whole world. In fact, if it changes us individually for the better it most defiantly will change the world because after all we are all connected by the Divine Web of Creation.

You might ask, “Why is this important?” It is because desire is the spark that ignites the flame of your soul and illuminates your innate creativity, imagination, and vision. Through your pure, heartfelt intention you will summon one of the most powerful agents of change in the universe—Desire.

So imagine if we really got cooking and accessed all our creativity and heartfelt desires – perhaps we really could create world peace.

In its purest form, your soul’s desire is a magnet pulling you toward the life you want to live. Your desires will source you with the inspiration to release your outdated beliefs and let go of whatever behavior is keeping you stuck in the past.

Your soul’s desires compel you to grow, evolve and move closer to your highest potential. Beneath the surface of your ego’s insatiable cravings, your authentic desires are waiting patiently for you to recognize, declare and communicate them.

My passion and quest are this – I am committed to raising self-esteem in women, young children, young women and the men in their life – I see an urgent need to ignite hidden desires and to help people step aboard the creative flow of life.

Joyously lifting them up from a mundane material world to a place of purpose and full expression.

I see that many young people have lost the ability to be creative – they’ve been born into a world where life has been presented to them by the means of “whatʼs in it for me?” and sadly when one comes from a place of constantly taking, they lose sight of whatʼs real and have no vision or more seriously they don’t develop the ability to give of themselves creatively.

Of course, it is not only our youth, but we also have been spoon feed information now for a couple of decades and have forgotten what it is like to explore and play in the realm of our imagination, in some ways we have forgotten how to really think, play and feel. Finding one’s self is more than a little personal development, it is a journey into the extraordinary fabric of the unseen worlds and the ability to bring back the treasures you found there.

Itʼs the ability to bring them back to our world and develop them for the greater good of all.

That is what a true Artisan, Visionary or Leader is – they are not afraid to be different, they don’t ask whatʼs in it for me, they are jubilant and thrilled to live their life with passion and conviction. They know how great it feels to be in flow with all that is and to use the time that they have been given wisely and to the best of their ability.

I am not saying that the information age and globalization has been entirely bad but sometimes when there is so much to choose from we choose nothing or just take what we are told we need.

What if this is the Humanitarian Age!

I invite you to share what your real deal passions and desires are in your life?

Do you know your Tribe Talkers?

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Get Emotionally Involved With Your Tribe-Talkers…

As New Style Leaders we tend to get lost in activities like designing flyers, writing blogs and growing a Facebook following—this can make us forget the more important stuff.

What I am about to share may be hard to hear and so it’s hard to write too because I know it may not be the answer you’re looking for.

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We all want the right answers, the step-by-step, the foolproof, guaranteed-not-to-fail method.

The truth is, if there was one then we’d all be telling our stories like dizzy drones without connecting to our audience and community.

The key is not to see our leadership as ‘a campaign’ that starts and ends, or as a process that you’re just getting through, but to think of your leadership role or your product launch as a love affair with life, which creates an emotional connection with your audience.

Our role is to connect heart to heart with our audience and deliver their desires.

Walk into an Apple store, pick up any item or device and feel the design and quality talking to you through your hands straight to your heart.

Every curve, screen, and tiny detail says, “we cared enough to know you are a creative person” to each of their customers.

What would you want to say to your audience if you were face to face?

What can you share with your audience that they want to hear… which other brands or business just don’t have?

What are your peers or competitors too afraid to try?

Your role it to “Say” and “Do” that thing.

We all just need to get out there and be the Real Deal, because my friend that’s really all that matters.

Leadership Is Becoming More ‘Feminine’

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Global Headline Findings: The Future of Leadership Communication is More ‘Feminine’ – an Enhanced Blueprint

1 – Leading by example, communicating transparently, admitting mistakes and bringing out the best in others top the list of leadership attributes. It is key actions around honesty, transparency and collaboration – not just key messages – that matter most.

2 – This is seen acutely in crisis situations, when it is critical to offer practical, accountable solutions that match words and deeds, while operationalizing empathy rather simply than showing empathy for its own sake.

3 – The future of leadership communication is more ‘feminine’. Female leaders perform best on 5 of the 7 most important attributes and on all of the top – Although the world is looking more to male 4 leaders than female ones – 54% to 46%.

4 – Trustworthiness remains at an absolute premium for corporations to be seen as leaders – together with quality and service. It is worrying therefore that leadership scores have fallen across multiple industries, despite leadership scores for most vertical sectors rising 8 points or more.

5 – Multiple audiences beyond the corporation itself – particularly friends and family, media and activists/NGOs – outrank the CEO and other senior management as trusted sources of information, while also directly impacting consumers’ purchasing behavior.

6 – Company employees who you know, together with those involved in selling goods or services and managing complaints, leave senior managers and the CEO standing as sources of credible corporate information – making effective employee engagement critical.

7 – Personal presence and engagement remain at a premium across all communications channels, while digital and social channels lag ‘traditional’ and ‘in-person’ channels in impacting public sentiment.

8 – A specific vocal minority sub-set of consumers – ‘Leadership eVangelists’ – have a disproportionate impact on commercial outcomes, making engagement with them critical to commercial outcomes and corporate credibility.

Effective Leadership = Open Communication + Decisive Action + Personal Presence

A model underlining the importance of the Good Leader Formula developed over the past two years: Effective Leadership = Open Communication + Decisive Action + Personal Presence. The debate continues and Ketchum is proud to be part of it.

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