WHY we need STORY

animals-avian-beach-760984We long for connection with all that is curious and creative.

We are creatures who belong to each other for reasons beyond analysis, for it is our heart’s desire and our life’s dream to fulfill a worthy story.

We ache with a need to connect and create or sadly the other is we become numb and silently indifferent.

Yet it is the never-ending and renewed STORY that is forever wanting to grow through us… I urge you, dear storytellers of our time, to be at one with its magical forces. For in truth there is nothing but Story, it is what teaches us and what sustains us as human beings. STORY informs our purpose, but more importantly, it gives humanity its Soul.

– Elizabeth Ellames

Do you have a story wanting to grow through you?

KIND is the new COOL

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The REAL DEAL Benefits Of Being Socially Responsible in Business

There are benefits on both sides of being a socially responsible business. We all like to connect with good people, as do customers, who also prefer to associate with good businesses. And being a socially responsible business is a great way to attract positive attention to your organization, and also make your employees feel proud to be part of your enterprise. But before you can do this, it’s important to have clearly defined core values.

Build Your Brand From The Inside Out

Being socially responsible is a great way to build your brand, and create a positive name for yourself. Things like goodwill, trust, and an overall positive image are possible through being socially responsible. If you support the right type of cause, there can also be many co-branding and marketing opportunities.

Attract And Engage Appropriate Talent

Gen Y and Gen X are generally suspicious of big business, the government, and the media. And are especially connected to working for socially responsible companies. Millennial case studies show that around 80 percent of 13- to 25-year-olds surveyed want to work for businesses that care about their effect on society. Others studies have found that MBA graduates would prefer to sacrifice on average $11,000 of their annual salary to work for a socially responsible establishment. The current trends show that people really do want to make a difference in the world, and this is a great way to attract and engage the appropriate talent in your business. When staff members are proud of where they work they feel a sense of loyalty, which makes them ambassadors for the business.

People Want To Contribute To Something That Makes A Difference And Has A Positive Impact On The World

People Love Being Socially Responsible

Many studies have found that 50% of consumers, surveyed worldwide would be willing to pay more for goods and services from socially responsible companies. The caution is, and this is important for businesses to think about, is that in countries where there was already some disbelief, the willingness to spend more was lower. This means that businesses and the initiatives you’re applying need to be totally authentic. It’s extremely important to always be demonstrating “inclusiveness, kindness and transparency,” in everything from your business culture to your promotional campaigns.

It Helps To Encourage Connectivity And Engagement 

When you include your team in larger processes and vision planning, such as designing and applying a socially responsible initiative for your business. They’ll feel that they are part of something bigger, inspired, that they have influence and can create impact. Therefore they will be more engaged and generally speaking, people are most engaged when they feel part of a collective, rather than bound to their usual role and tasks.

It Keeps Your Business Innovative

Choosing to have a unique and value-add impact, as a business, and doing things differently to your competitors helps your business stand out more. This applies to all areas of business, including a socially responsible business. Your relationship with society is as important as your relationship with customers. Having a strong vision and connection to a cause that makes a positive impact provides a genuine “value add, caring, and innovative advantage.”

Collaborative Leadership For Good 

Being a small operation or a ‘sole trader’ needn’t hold you back from becoming a socially responsible business. The same principles apply whether your business is large or small. You can still be an inspiration, influence others and create social impact by simply collaborating with other small business owners, consultants and sole traders that have aligned values and who are equally passionate about making a positive difference in the world.

CONTACT ME TODAY

Tel 040 330 9696

elizabeth.ellames@ozemail.com.au

 

Being YOU!

Being the best YOU eliminates competition and comparisons. The truth is no one can be better at being you, than you!

I have been in the business of helping people identify their authentic self for well over 20 years. It’s been indeed a powerful, rewarding, challenging, and revealing process and I say that with absolute love and compassion.

  • I’ll also add my experience on this journey of self-discovery was the number one issue for most people that I’ve worked with is the limiting core belief of “not being good enough”.
  • This is often masked by what some call “the imposter syndrome”, whose flipside is “I have to be better than everyone else to be accepted”.

The problem with this thinking is one never reaches or even feels their potential for long enough to really grow their inner culture because their true potential lies within themselves and when someone is constantly viewing themselves from an external comparison their inner culture, their magnificence (light) starts to fade away.

So when I say… Being the best YOU eliminates competition and comparisons, I am suggesting you cant do it by looking outside yourself, you must go within. Being the best you is always going to be an inside job, sure we can use tools/practices to aid in that process and that’s why I created the tools I have for people. But the looking outside yourself is really for one reason only… to genuinely connect with other human beings.

Not for the purpose of gain or to copy them or even be better than them. Its to unite with them so we can ALL shine brighter. Of course, I’m not saying we don’t learn from each other because that’s a given.

However, what I am pointing out is “what’s the intention, desire, and motivation behind that need to learn from others?” In a world where we are made to think you have to “be the best” to get ahead, it’s no wonder people have adopted these destructive and disempowering ideas and become blind to the needs of their inner personal culture, essence, spirit, and value.

The truth is no one can be better at being you, than you! You then see that there is no competition, it’s just a figment of your imagination.

So, I will say it again… no one can be better at being you, than you! Which invites the question, Who are YOU?

Is life meant to be soft, hard or fun?

#2: Express COURAGE

Don’t wait to feel courageous. Act courageously even when you feel it the least. Only when you act in the face of fear do you validate your true bravery and boldness. Be audacious in accepting challenges. Calculate your risks to help reduce apprehension, then defy your fear and step forward.

Courage Cultivates Leadership.

 

TEL : 040 330 9696
elizabeth.ellames@ozemail.com.au

Goodbye to Gossip

 

Hello Integrity….. Dear old gossip has become an addiction for many women.

It is seductive and builds an unhealthy intimacy among women, which creates false security. I believe the female species will come to a place of contentment when this persistent obstacle is corrected and transformed.

Gossip is connected to these four faces of addiction.

  • boredom
  • competition
  • drama
  • low self-esteem

Realizing this is the first step to healing the addiction – from there we can choose to participate in it or not.

It is said the point of power is in the present and poor old Gossip is never in the present she is always going on about what was said or happened in the past. She weaves her words for the purpose of separation, which create a divide in friendships, family and community.

Gossip keeps everyone small and is always driven by fear. Women have relied on gossip to define their position in society and culture for centuries, but it is not necessary anymore. Women now have the opportunity to rise up out of this unproductive damaging behavior and create a new and prosperous culture for all women.

Gossip is a shadow deity whose time and face has come to an end. She has upgraded to the face of “Integrity”, who is evolving into the New Woman, the New Humanity and therefore there is no place for these old behaviors.

I say it is time to put our temptation to spread rumors to bed and start being more creative with our female conversations, after all, we are extremely creative beings.

For the record, the gossip on me is “why does she always have to be… so in ya’ face” well my response to that is – at least it’s to your face and not behind your back and bitchin’ in the kitchen so to speak.

Guess it all started with that wicked old queen in the story of Snow White who’s famous last words were “Mirror, Mirror on the wall who’s the fairest of them all” now she had a serious bitchin’ addiction.

Hope you can take this refreshing idea into your relationships and watch them bloom into something far greater than girly catch ups.

 

Real Deal Men and Women

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Is evolution handing the reins over to women?

If we lift the veil on our Planet… what do we see right now?

The dominant profit-over-people systems are going through major breakdowns. Humanity’s 5,000-year abuse of power and masculine/feminine imbalance is coming to an end. People are waking up to a new wave of consciousness.

How do we deal with this change?

First, we need to disconnect from the emotional entanglement of the old. Then recognize that we are at the end of a cycle, which is what we need to do in order for the new to be born.

How do we facilitate this new way of being in the world?

The old way has conditioned women to feel powerless. But their nature, in fact, has always been powerful. Women have the ability to access power from the depths of their intuition, they hold within their bodies a great creative potential, and can exercise power through a balanced open heart. Women know how to connect, for they are the masters of emotion.

Women innately have the power of creation within them.

At present women are being asked to stand strong. Not to stand against something, but to stand up and be REAL DEAL women. On their own, women can’t heal the violation of our planet or bring peace to the whole world. But every woman willing to direct her passion, mission, heart’s desire, life’s work can facilitate the change we need. Together we can create a new story for humanity, one where a woman stands strong in their true leadership potential.

The old way has caused women to compete against each other. It is time for women to throw off their conditioning, reach out to each other, and collaborate. Collectively standing in their power creates connection and with this increase of Unity, the old power structures will fall away.

Is it time for women to stop asking for permission and time to start asking for support?

The New Woman is bringing forth the New Man; at the moment men have a very different task also, which is to reclaim the power of their heart. They too are experiencing this new and often challenging transformation, which is forcing us to respect each other even more. Their role is to increasingly honor women while they go about their life purpose and to honor their own male process and responses, which is being activated by the emerging feminine power that is upon us.

So what does the future hold?

Who really knows, but what we can do is focus on what works, as the old ways change for the better and make way for a new way of being… women and men alike—have a window of opportunity: the opportunity to dream a new world rooted in the energy of a higher heart, the souls calling, the balance of the feminine/masculine that is created through the gift of revere, recognition and respect.

There is no question that a new world will emerge. The only question is: What part do we want to play in it?

Are you ready to be a REAL DEAL man and woman?

Do you always live your life in the present moment?

Can you identify and communicate your story and your brand clearly?

REAL DEAL productions have been created for the purpose of helping men and women to identify, clarify, specify, edify and unify their purpose-based brand. The clearer you are around your time, energy and purpose the more value you can contribute to your own life and the lives of others.

Elizabeth Ellames 

 

When you think you have it all…

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Hi there Social and Spiritual Synergy Spinners,

Well yes Adele we do think we have it all till we see our brothers and sisters, our children, our animals and our environment suffering, then we know deep, deep in our soul we don’t have it all unless our whole planet has it all.

I am deeply in love with my Husband, my Sons and my World around me. In fact I am in love with a life that has been wounded by insane speed, greed and needs. What we all want is real FREEDOM… a pure and undiluted freedom. I really love the urgent and heavy heart beat of this song, it makes me want to get up and demonstrate my PASSION for such a wonderous LIFE.

It creates an impulse of SHE power (Spiritually Healthy Entrepreneur)… I believe it is community that holds the freedom we are looking for, not a stuffy, sticky or intrusive bunch of people who don’t know who they really are. See the truth is we all long for contact with those who understand our heart song,

  • We long for connection with all that is curious and creative.
  • We are creatures who belong to each other for reasons beyond analysis, it is our hearts desire and our life’s dream to fulfill a worthy story.
  • We ache with a need to connect and create or sadly the other is we become numb and indifferent.

Be a courageously creative creature and connect to those who want to create with you.

Thank you Goddess Adele, your expression of the feminine is amazing !

Heart to Heart Elizabeth

FREE your fear

FREE your fear of failure

and live a life of FAITH…

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“Keep The Faith” – Michael Jackson

If You Call Out Loud
Will It Get Inside
Through The Heart Of Your Surrender
To Your Alibis
And You Can Say The Words
Like You Understand
But The Power’s In Believing
So Give Yourself A Chance
‘Cause You Can
Climb The Highest Mountain
Swim The Deepest Sea, Hee
All You Need Is The Will To Want It
And Uhh, Little Self-Esteem
So Keep The Faith
Don’t Let Nobody Turn You ‘Round
You Gotta Know When It’s Good To Go
To Get Your Dreams Up Off The Ground
Keep The Faith, Baby, Yea
Because It’s Just
A Matter Of Time
Before Your Confidence Will Win Out
Believe In Yourself
No Matter What It’s Gon’ Take
You Can Be A Winner
But You Got To Keep The Faith
…Gon’ Keep It Brother
You Got It
And When You Think Of Trust
Does It Lead You Home
To A Place That You Only Dream Of
When You’re All Alone
And You Can Go By Feel
‘Stead Of Circumstance
But The Power’s In Beliving
So Give Yourself A Chance
I Know That You Can Sail Across The Water
Float Across The Sky, High
Any Road That You Take
Will Get You There
If You Only Try
So Keep The Faith, Ow
Don’t Let Nobody Take You Down,Brother
Just Keep Your Eyes On The Prize
And Your Feet Flat On The Ground
Keep The Faith, Baby, Yea
Because It’s Just A Matter Of Time
Before Your Confidence Will Win Out
I Told My Brother How To Do The Thing Right
Lift Up Your Head And Show The World You Got Pride
Go For What You Want
Don’t Let ‘Em Get In Your Way
You Can Be A Winner
But You Got To Keep The Faith
Gon’ Keep It Brother
You Got It
I Know That Keepin’ The Faith
Means Never Givin’ Up On Love
But The Power That Love Has To Make It Right
Makes It Makes It Right
Keep The Faith
Don’t Let Nobody Turn You ‘Round Brother
You Got To KnowWhen It’s Good To Go
To Get Your Dreams Up Off The Ground
Keep The Faith Baby, Yea
Because It’s Just A Matter Of Time
Before Your Confidence Will Win Out
Better Stand Up And Act Like You Wanna Do Right
Don’t Play The Fool For The Rest Of Your Life
Work On It Brother And You’ll Make It Someday
Go For What You Want
And Don’t Forget The Faith
Look At Yourself
And What You Doin’ Right Now
Stand Back A Minute
Just To Check Yourself Out
Straighten Out Your Life
And How You’re Livin’ Each Day
Get Yourself Together
‘Cause You Got To Keep The Faith
Uh, Uh, Uh
Don’t Let Nobody Take You Down, Brother
Just Keep Your Eyes On The Prize
And Your Feet Flat On The Ground
Keep The Faith, Baby, Yea
Because It’s Just A Matter Of Time
Before Your Confidence Will Win Out
Lift Up Your Mind
Before Your Mind Gets Blown
Some Things In Life
You Best Just Leave Them Alone
Go For What You Want
Don’t Let It Get In Your Way
You Can Make It Happen
But Ya Got Ta Keep The Faith
Gon’ Keep It Brother
You Got To Keep The Faith
Yeah Keep The Faith
Gon’ Keep It Sister
You Got To Keep The Faith
Now, Now
I’ll Show My Brotha
How To Do The Thing Right
Lift Up Your Head
And Show The World You Got Pride
Go For What You Want
Don’t Let ‘Em Get In Your Way
You Can Be A Winner
If You Keep The Faith
Straighten Out Yourself
And Get Your Mind On Track
Dust Off Your Butt
And Get Your Self-Respect Back
You’ve Known Me Long Enough
To Know That I Don’t Play
Take It Like You Want It
But You Got To Keep The Faith Gon’
Don’t Let Nobody Take You Down
Just Keep Your Eyes On The Prize
And Get Your Feet Back On The Ground
Keep The Faith, Baby, Yea
Because It’s Just A Matter Of Time
Before Your Confidence Will Win Out
But Till That Day I Said You’ve Got To Keep The Faith!

The Power of Mentoring

WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE 

About 10 years ago I was asked by a beautiful and enthusiastic young woman if I would be one of her spiritual mentors.

At first, I thought “Do I have time for it? ” “Am I good enough to do such a job?” “Does one get paid for something like this?”

You know how it is – Blah Blah Blah! 

Because it set off so many different thought processes, I knew I needed to step back and have a good look at what was really happening here. I then saw how my ego (fear) was tripping me up.

Once I had given myself some time to be still and see what I was really being asked to do – it was clear. For someone to ask you to mentor them is a God-given privilege and an honorable duty to be accepted with grace.

The process of meeting with this delightful young woman was actually a gift to me as well; it has moved me forward on my own journey. It became very clear to me that it is a natural and essential way for humans to interact and grow.

Since then I have been asked to mentor 2 other young women and I look forward to each of their visits with absolute excitement. I am sure that it is our lack of connection with each other, which has caused most of our social problems.

Unfortunately, some parents don’t even recognize that they are mentors for their children and I think if the aged population had a young person visiting them for mentoring once a week or fortnight they to would be alive with purpose and act in ways they didn’t know were possible. Simply listening to the thoughts and perspectives of a young person would help to stimulate their thinking and expand their world.

And of course, the wisdom and stories that an elder can pass on are equally as valuable to our youth.

After my first year of mentoring… I came to the conclusion that  ‘If we are not mentoring, we need to be mentored’ it is a continuum so to speak. A giving back to the world, your community, through your life experiences. A giving and receiving process that comes with a level of respect that one can’t find anywhere else in life.

I strongly believe that the rightful practice of mentoring in our world is the key to true human sustainability. What follows is a small piece I wrote on the matter:

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Through the simple act of being a Mentor or being Mentored, we uncover our true purpose in life. It is from this revered action of commitment and appreciation that an individual’s generosity and integrity abound. From our somewhat hidden nature, we find strength and gain unity. We miraculously blossom and move forward with hope in our hearts for the generations to come.

Heart to Heart Elizabeth Ellames

Panning for GOLD

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Objectively –

meaning: using facts and not influenced by personal feelings or beliefs: 

impartially, neutrally, fairly, justly, without prejudice, with an open mind, equitably, without fear or favour, even-handedly, without bias – to view a situation objectively.

 A pile of nice shiny gold bars

So often we suffer over troubling situations, we go over and over what we could say to this person or that. We think up all sorts of scenarios of how they should or could be. We relentlessly try to come up with ways to control outcomes. We create enormous stories in our mind that can last for decades, which in most cases wont make one ounce of difference, except for depleting our energy levels and taking up our time.

I have come up with a very quick and effective tool for dealing with situations that are in emotional entanglement. I call it “panning for GOLD”.
It is a 6 step process that goes like this…
  • Decide to view the situation objectively. 
  • Take all the names, relationships and who did what out of the situation.
  • What are the facts that are present?
  • Wait for a moment for the unwanted matter to fall away in your mind.
  • Allow the truth to come to the surface.
  • What is left is only the GOLD of the situation.

Here is an example…

A friend asks you over for dinner, they don’t give you a time of arrival. When you phone to make arrangements they don’t answer your calls. Last time you went to their place for a meal they had been drinking all day and forgot you were coming. You feel very uncomfortable about the whole situation, you do care about this person and are worried about their drinking, but you don’t want to get stuck at their place hungry and angry again.

Let’s GOLD pan this situation…

  • This person clearly isn’t reliable.
  • Evaluate the situation – is this a friendship or a co-dependency?
  • If I want to remain friends, I will need to call the shots.
  • Is this my problem?
  • Remove myself from the emotional entanglement.
  • The gift here is that I have repeatedly witnessed the history … and can now stop participating in it.

The gold in this particular experience is very clear – there is always a CHOICE POINT.

Try this tool of empowerment in your life and see if you can strike some GOLD!!