Create A New Story Of Sisterhood

Re-Post from 2012

Here is my personal story of surrender – it is a story that demonstrates the power of surrender and how every thought, action and word contributes to the social and spiritual fabric of our world.

On the morning of Sep 11th 2001 – I walked in to my youngest sons bedroom to see him witnessing the horror of the twin towers falling – he said “Mum look the US is being attacked.” I sat on the bed with him in disbelief – I wasn’t sure if it was real or not. Once I had come to terms with the fact that it was real – I then asked my self “who am I in conflict with, who is it that I need to make peace with right now.”

I knew at some level – however small, I had contributed to this madness – immediately a woman’s name came to mind, it was someone I had often been judgmental about. In that moment I handed it all to God, I said “I offer this to you God – I totally release this conflict within me and will be aware of my words from this moment on, I offer this to you to be healed.”

That morning I took my husband to the airport for work, both of us still in a state of shock. On the way back from the airport I thought I would visit St Peters Cathedral – which has a beautiful area at the back of the cathedral called The Lady Chapel. I had often visited The Lady Chapel – it is a wonderful place for women to go to when they need a little comfort and shelter from the harshness of the world.

I walked in to the chapel to find only one other person there – it was her – the woman I needed to make peace with. There we were both in the same place, at the same time, doing the same thing. She had her eyes closed, so I gently put my hand on her lap and whispered her name. She looked up at me and said so sweetly, “I thought you were The Madonna”. I smiled, made eye contact and moved on to enter my silence and be with my God. I will never forget the gift I was given that day – It was so powerful.

I tell that story often because it confirms to others and to myself the enormous power of synchronicity, I have no doubt that my experience that day was a direct message and blessing from GOD. I was given a gift; a wake up call, to get on with the work that I needed to do while here on our beautiful jewel, planet Earth.

The New Story Of Sisterhood starts with a chapter called “Surrender”.

Lets surrender up the old, so called sister story of competition, jealousy, she said, I said, what about, I hate it when and so on. Let’s say NO I don’t want to support or tell that old story anymore. The number one key to creating a new story is being prepared to let go of the old one. This is how I do it; I say to myself “give it up, give it up, give it up”. I surrender my life to the nature of God and I am free, I am free to be me.

As we confidently embrace our liberation as New Women, we can use this opportunity to connect with each other at a whole new level. We can start a new story that speaks of encouragement and tenderness toward each other as sisters. The sisters that went before us courageously made way for our liberation. Now it is up to us to truly embrace our present day sisters with our hearts wide open, proudly knowing they are our support team. I encourage you to stand naked in your truth and liberate your self some more. You have been born into a time like no other, don’t waste a second of your liberty sisters. Speak from your heart, walk tall and know that from your own personal liberty, you are helping to raise the self esteem of other women.

Our time here on earth is sacred and only a blink in the vastness of the cosmos. We are all blessed with many gifts and as we honor them in each other our power and beauty grows. Idle gossip and control tactics wont add value to any situation – our time here on earth is to love each other and express our individual passions. So let’s go forth with love and light in our hearts, bless the world with our many gifts and create a new story of sisterhood.

I invite you to share your ideas on what our new story may look like and how it is coming alive in your own life.

Trust + Truth = Unity

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Learning the importance of being connected and staying connected with people with whom you resonate with, is in fact what builds an effective community.

Trust + Truth = Unity

And It’s through our frequency of interaction and transparency, which eventually creates true prosperity. This is our new currency that also leads to greater levels of human resources.

At this level of connection, we enter a higher level of possibility and creativity, which is the nature and desire of the TribeTalker.

The only intention of the TribeTalker is to reach higher ground. They are the forward-thinking business owners, life coaches, trainers, students, presenters, and entrepreneurs, who want to see a change in our world by genuinely helping each other succeed.

Do you want to highlight your talents and promote your personal brand, through the power of edifying and unifying people?

If so, you are indeed part of this emerging breed of new style leaders.

Elizabeth is excited to be the facilitator of an authentic and amazing new way of being in a relationship, business and community.

We show you how your ability to share your life experiences with others gives you clarity and confidence to effectively share other people’s stories, which creates a currency between people that promotes true prosperity. This new way of being takes us out of the old Silo paradigm that promotes scarcity to a new and vibrant Tribe paradigm that promotes there is always enough, if we share.

And I genuinely believe we need to thank our bright new generation of individuals for this shift, they have arrived at the table with the thought provoking message…

“I don’t care what you know, until I know that you care”.

What a great way to live in relationship, business and community, which fits perfectly with the TribeTalkers creed of “We are what we share and we share if we care”

Look forward to meeting you at one of our events in the future 🙂

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Elizabeth Ellames

Adding Value Is Good Business

Steve Jobs drew on many areas of social culture to see what the current trends were – and that’s because knowing what people value and desire in life, is what business is all about. If you forget what or why your business was created, your value will start to drop away.

Your Context Is Key !!

Be creative around your business and ask the important question…

“Why does my business exist?”

This question will always provide the appropriate WHAT, WHY and HOW to every solution. E.G.Ellames

 

Goodbye to Gossip

 

Hello Integrity….. Dear old gossip has become an addiction for many women.

It is seductive and builds an unhealthy intimacy among women, which creates false security. I believe the female species will come to a place of contentment when this persistent obstacle is corrected and transformed.

Gossip is connected to these four faces of addiction.

  • boredom
  • competition
  • drama
  • low self-esteem

Realizing this is the first step to healing the addiction – from there we can choose to participate in it or not.

It is said the point of power is in the present and poor old Gossip is never in the present she is always going on about what was said or happened in the past. She weaves her words for the purpose of separation, which create a divide in friendships, family and community.

Gossip keeps everyone small and is always driven by fear. Women have relied on gossip to define their position in society and culture for centuries, but it is not necessary anymore. Women now have the opportunity to rise up out of this unproductive damaging behavior and create a new and prosperous culture for all women.

Gossip is a shadow deity whose time and face has come to an end. She has upgraded to the face of “Integrity”, who is evolving into the New Woman, the New Humanity and therefore there is no place for these old behaviors.

I say it is time to put our temptation to spread rumors to bed and start being more creative with our female conversations, after all, we are extremely creative beings.

For the record, the gossip on me is “why does she always have to be… so in ya’ face” well my response to that is – at least it’s to your face and not behind your back and bitchin’ in the kitchen so to speak.

Guess it all started with that wicked old queen in the story of Snow White who’s famous last words were “Mirror, Mirror on the wall who’s the fairest of them all” now she had a serious bitchin’ addiction.

Hope you can take this refreshing idea into your relationships and watch them bloom into something far greater than girly catch ups.

 

Growing A New Humanity

FREE your fear

FREE your fear of failure

and live a life of FAITH…

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“Keep The Faith” – Michael Jackson

If You Call Out Loud
Will It Get Inside
Through The Heart Of Your Surrender
To Your Alibis
And You Can Say The Words
Like You Understand
But The Power’s In Believing
So Give Yourself A Chance
‘Cause You Can
Climb The Highest Mountain
Swim The Deepest Sea, Hee
All You Need Is The Will To Want It
And Uhh, Little Self-Esteem
So Keep The Faith
Don’t Let Nobody Turn You ‘Round
You Gotta Know When It’s Good To Go
To Get Your Dreams Up Off The Ground
Keep The Faith, Baby, Yea
Because It’s Just
A Matter Of Time
Before Your Confidence Will Win Out
Believe In Yourself
No Matter What It’s Gon’ Take
You Can Be A Winner
But You Got To Keep The Faith
…Gon’ Keep It Brother
You Got It
And When You Think Of Trust
Does It Lead You Home
To A Place That You Only Dream Of
When You’re All Alone
And You Can Go By Feel
‘Stead Of Circumstance
But The Power’s In Beliving
So Give Yourself A Chance
I Know That You Can Sail Across The Water
Float Across The Sky, High
Any Road That You Take
Will Get You There
If You Only Try
So Keep The Faith, Ow
Don’t Let Nobody Take You Down,Brother
Just Keep Your Eyes On The Prize
And Your Feet Flat On The Ground
Keep The Faith, Baby, Yea
Because It’s Just A Matter Of Time
Before Your Confidence Will Win Out
I Told My Brother How To Do The Thing Right
Lift Up Your Head And Show The World You Got Pride
Go For What You Want
Don’t Let ‘Em Get In Your Way
You Can Be A Winner
But You Got To Keep The Faith
Gon’ Keep It Brother
You Got It
I Know That Keepin’ The Faith
Means Never Givin’ Up On Love
But The Power That Love Has To Make It Right
Makes It Makes It Right
Keep The Faith
Don’t Let Nobody Turn You ‘Round Brother
You Got To KnowWhen It’s Good To Go
To Get Your Dreams Up Off The Ground
Keep The Faith Baby, Yea
Because It’s Just A Matter Of Time
Before Your Confidence Will Win Out
Better Stand Up And Act Like You Wanna Do Right
Don’t Play The Fool For The Rest Of Your Life
Work On It Brother And You’ll Make It Someday
Go For What You Want
And Don’t Forget The Faith
Look At Yourself
And What You Doin’ Right Now
Stand Back A Minute
Just To Check Yourself Out
Straighten Out Your Life
And How You’re Livin’ Each Day
Get Yourself Together
‘Cause You Got To Keep The Faith
Uh, Uh, Uh
Don’t Let Nobody Take You Down, Brother
Just Keep Your Eyes On The Prize
And Your Feet Flat On The Ground
Keep The Faith, Baby, Yea
Because It’s Just A Matter Of Time
Before Your Confidence Will Win Out
Lift Up Your Mind
Before Your Mind Gets Blown
Some Things In Life
You Best Just Leave Them Alone
Go For What You Want
Don’t Let It Get In Your Way
You Can Make It Happen
But Ya Got Ta Keep The Faith
Gon’ Keep It Brother
You Got To Keep The Faith
Yeah Keep The Faith
Gon’ Keep It Sister
You Got To Keep The Faith
Now, Now
I’ll Show My Brotha
How To Do The Thing Right
Lift Up Your Head
And Show The World You Got Pride
Go For What You Want
Don’t Let ‘Em Get In Your Way
You Can Be A Winner
If You Keep The Faith
Straighten Out Yourself
And Get Your Mind On Track
Dust Off Your Butt
And Get Your Self-Respect Back
You’ve Known Me Long Enough
To Know That I Don’t Play
Take It Like You Want It
But You Got To Keep The Faith Gon’
Don’t Let Nobody Take You Down
Just Keep Your Eyes On The Prize
And Get Your Feet Back On The Ground
Keep The Faith, Baby, Yea
Because It’s Just A Matter Of Time
Before Your Confidence Will Win Out
But Till That Day I Said You’ve Got To Keep The Faith!

Taking Care Of Business

 

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I attended a business seminar, which was very powerful in terms of reminding me that I am not my business, but rather I am the CEO, GUARDIAN or PARENT of my business and it is my RESPONSIBILITY to take care of it in the appropriate manner.

Wilson Luna uses the analogy of your business being like your child, it is vulnerable in its early stages of development.

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What follows is my new version on how to take better care of MY BUSINESS – Incorporating it with the child parallel.

1. My BUSINESS (child) was born from me, but I am not my BUSINESS (child).

2. My BUSINESS (child) will definitely inherit some of my GIFTS and VALUES.

3. I RESPECT and VALUE the TIME I spend with my BUSINESS (child).

4. I am very MINDFUL what nourishment I provide to my BUSINESS (child).

5. I am also MINDFUL of how I manage and correct my BUSINESS (child).

6. When I don’t know what to do – I ASK – someone with more experience what to do for my BUSINESS (child).

7. I make sound decisions that will create a future/legacy for my BUSINESS (child).

8. I don’t leave my BUSINESS (child) in the care of others who don’t understand, respect or be kind to my BUSINESS (child).

A BUSINESS goes through different stages of development just as a child does and it needs a lot of support as it grows.

Again the BUSINESS (child) will grow according to its environment its like this – it needs support from its GUARDIAN, FAMILY, COMMUNITY and HUMANITY – that is how it can grow and become a VALUABLE CONTRIBUTION in the world.

We can be very irresponsible bringing up children and are the same with our business.

The parallels around raising a CHILD and raising a BUSINESS are amazing !!

Panning for GOLD

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Objectively –

meaning: using facts and not influenced by personal feelings or beliefs: 

impartially, neutrally, fairly, justly, without prejudice, with an open mind, equitably, without fear or favour, even-handedly, without bias – to view a situation objectively.

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So often we suffer over troubling situations, we go over and over what we could say to this person or that. We think up all sorts of scenarios of how they should or could be. We relentlessly try to come up with ways to control outcomes. We create enormous stories in our mind that can last for decades, which in most cases wont make one ounce of difference, except for depleting our energy levels and taking up our time.

I have come up with a very quick and effective tool for dealing with situations that are in emotional entanglement. I call it “panning for GOLD”.
It is a 6 step process that goes like this…
  • Decide to view the situation objectively. 
  • Take all the names, relationships and who did what out of the situation.
  • What are the facts that are present?
  • Wait for a moment for the unwanted matter to fall away in your mind.
  • Allow the truth to come to the surface.
  • What is left is only the GOLD of the situation.

Here is an example…

A friend asks you over for dinner, they don’t give you a time of arrival. When you phone to make arrangements they don’t answer your calls. Last time you went to their place for a meal they had been drinking all day and forgot you were coming. You feel very uncomfortable about the whole situation, you do care about this person and are worried about their drinking, but you don’t want to get stuck at their place hungry and angry again.

Let’s GOLD pan this situation…

  • This person clearly isn’t reliable.
  • Evaluate the situation – is this a friendship or a co-dependency?
  • If I want to remain friends, I will need to call the shots.
  • Is this my problem?
  • Remove myself from the emotional entanglement.
  • The gift here is that I have repeatedly witnessed the history … and can now stop participating in it.

The gold in this particular experience is very clear – there is always a CHOICE POINT.

Try this tool of empowerment in your life and see if you can strike some GOLD!!

Beauty is Balance

I believe true beauty is revealed to us when there is a combination of natural elements that are brought in to play. It is either an encounter of nature’s raw but pure presence or it can be the splendour of something or someone in an authentic or natural state. Beauty is also enhanced or created by the craftsmanship of an artist’s hand, eye, heart and soul.

I also believe that beauty is built through the way we interact in relationships. This sacred combination of love and trust also brings about another facet of beauty in our life and in us. It is when we feel loved and safe in relationships that we are able to know and really touch the beauty that rests deep in the hearts of others and ourself. This encounter builds a confidence in our personal presence and hence creates again something of beauty.

I see beauty as an astonishing but illusive phenomenon. I believe its magic and its mystery resides in the absolute balance and harmony of life its self.
Beauty is life’s exquisite expressions delivered with perfect precision.

So why is beauty so important to us…?

True Love invites the heart but it is True Beauty that invites the Soul and the Soul needs to be nourished with beauty everyday in order for us to grow into our own beauty as a human being. A person without the ability to feel, speak, see or create things of beauty is missing in the quintessential spirit of life its self.
Beauty signifies Balance in our world and by creating balance in our relationships; in our health and in our creative expression we bring about an order of sanctity.

We love the experience of beauty because it reminds us of heaven; it demonstrates that we can create a little of heaven here on earth and because of this simple but glorious notion we are given the gift of Hope.

Hope for a better world where true beauty is rightfully respected and we are all free to shine and create and heal what ever is out of balance. A world that is full of so much beauty; so much balance that we are taken into a new wave of evolution.

This is the world I choose to live in.
This is the world of sublime beauty.

What is Beauty to you?

Inter Connectivity

Connectivity is much more than we think and I can confidently say that it is through our connectivity that we are able to create. We often think consciousness is different in nature, but of course, it is ‘consciousness’ that is driving all of creation. I call this level of connective reality Communication Networks of Consciousness. Just like everything in nature, our consciousness also has infinite and finite systems that operate on the principle of pathways and connectivity. The cosmos is, in fact, a sea of communication (common-union).

Clarity of purpose while in common-union, creates. It is at this level of participation that true coherence can and will occur. Coherence is like the glue of creation, there needs to be a consistency in logical interconnection plus an overall sense or understanding between other operating parts. It may sound complicated in relation to community, but in fact, that is where we need to understand the nature of coherence most of all. Before we can really co-create we have to have coherence and before coherence, we have to have connectivity.

There are many levels of connectivity between humans, but it is only when there is a collective impulse of true purpose alive in a community that the creative process will activate and start moving forward. Each and every part of the whole must be in alignment with the desired outcome and each member must be fully present to their role in that outcome. The collective vision must always be the driver for the whole group.

For example, the Unite Your Light WOMEN’s original vision was to – 

Grow a New Humanity and the interconnected visions of the group were;

  • The New Woman 
  • The New Man 
  • The New Story 
  • The New Family 
  • The New Child 

which collectively is The New Humanity.

And when we were faced with a moment of conflict within our group or even within yourself, we needed to go straight to the collective vision to see why the conflict had arisen. It didn’t mean the conflict would disappear immediately, but rather we could see that the conflict was actually a creative conflict and a necessary part of our conscious evolution as a whole. It is at this point of choice that our vision would start to evolve into a reality.

The creative conflict is a re-aligning mechanism and in the process of correcting and transforming the creative conflict, we actually became the vision. In regards to how community needs to work together, this concept is leading edge. A community’s true function is unity and I believe the science of community is connectivity and coherence with each other. It is in our willingness and ability to correct and transform that brings us together as a community. The beauty of our collective outcome becomes a genuine part of the natural order and process. We as human beings are literally encoded and designed to successfully contribute to the evolution of humanity.

As human beings moving forward on this journey of evolution lets be mindful of what we are contributing to the whole, are you clear about your purpose, your function and the possible outcome of your actions?

Heart to Heart Elizabeth

What are your thoughts on this topic?

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