Real Deal Power

Slide10Many female leaders mistakenly try to balance the shortcomings of dominant leadership by “over-relying” on their passive leadership tools such as empathy and collaboration. But getting people together to figure out what their Primary Vision is and what it needs, can easily lead to more confusion.

It can also weaken the power of women who may be misplacing their emotional intelligence when it’s their practical intelligence that will really make the difference.

However, a new style leader needs to demonstrate their Real Deal Power and cut through the confusion by constantly “simplifying the complexities” that are presented.

  • She is able to articulate the big picture and the necessary priorities using an array of simple directive statements, not commands or demands, but rather discerning and objective distinctions.
  • She always links her actions to the urgent needs of the project at hand and the culture of the company or team.
  • She can articulate the strategic plans of the project as clearly as a CEO.
  • She states what must be done immediately and has a question such as, “Does it make sense to you all that we replace our program development reviews with short, biweekly feedback sessions since people need a constant flow of coaching to stay focused on emerging priorities?”

And it’s wise to remember not to open any of these clarifying questions with a “Why”, because this can often imply that there is a level of judgment present and may bring about even more confusion.

Slide14This technique of making recommendations in the form of a question consistently raises her position of effective power. Her questions frame the discussion and contain compelling “if-then and what next” logic. It also helps her not fall into the trap of either complaining about or insisting on a change she wants to make.

This technique is not trivial.

There is plenty of research that confirms when women try to exert power using the same techniques as dominant males they actually reduce their power and influence and become labeled as “overly aggressive or worse…”

To sum it up, if we want to increase our power girls, we need to simplify confusion, clarify priorities, and lead people to follow us by asking them the appropriate “what’s next” or “where next” questions.

Above all adopt a real deal leadership approach. Don’t wait for orders and don’t spend your life trying to achieve other people’s goals.

Your ideas and goals are more than likely the Real Deal… So, You Go Girl!

What do you wear and share?

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Sublime Style 

Fashion is nothing to do with sex, fame or status and everything to do with your Attitude and Creativity – The way one presents to others is only ever related to the person wearing it. Indeed, we are what we wear – as we are what we share.

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Are you connected?

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Create COMMUNITY

Community is where you build your style of leadership. It is through your community that you see how your vision and talents as a new style leader benefit others. By creating a community you are enrolling others to support your leadership and vision as well as their own.

Community needs leadership.

What is Workplace Empowerment!

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We all want to feel happy, satisfied and fulfilled when we go the work, after all it’s where many of us spent half our life. 
They say Time = Money, perhaps? 
I suggest other wise…
How about Time = Life, your life.

Let’s face it, it doesn’t matter whether we’re a CEO, Personal Assistant, HR person, Hairdresser, Technician or Sales Assistant, we all want to feel valued, supported and happy.

We all want our work life to reflect who we are and what we value. So often though we leave our real deal self at home and bring to work, what I call our Half-Self.

Our vision at Real Deal seminars is to assist corporations, small business and institutions with new and effective ways of reaching workplace empowerment.

And the best place to start is with “the people”.

We ask people to identify “what’s not working and what is working in their workplace?”

Often mistrust is due to a lack of transparency, covert and overt competition and personal agendas that continuously need to be meet, which often result in bulling or passive aggressive behaviour, which is just as disruptive (covert bullying).

Finding out what works and what doesn’t work requires all parties to adopt a new way of communicating with each other, we call it “Being Real Matters”

“Being Real Matters” focuses on 5 necessary elements:

1. Identify
2. Clarity
3. Specify
4. Edify
5. Unify

Each step encourages people to be objective, creative, progressive and remain connected to their personal role or vision and the collective vision, while operating in their community or work environment.

Many of us wake up each day ready to add value to our life and the lives of others, instinctively wanting to make a difference.

But somehow our paradigm shifts when we get out into the world. Constant detractions and demands make us forget about what we really want and we often give away our authentic personal power when we walk into the workplace.

To effectively transform your workplace culture, start by asking yourself and your team a simple question:

  • Do you believe the people around you have the potential to do even greater work? The answer will likely be yes, but that only kicks off the discussion.

Here’s some follow-up questions:

  • How do we genuinely believe in each other’s potential? 
  • The truth presents in the type of feedback we give each other, how quickly do we share information and how consistent and persistent we are?
  • So, in your own interactions, how can you demonstrate your belief in others even more?

Here’s a few ways to start:

  • Ensure people are accountable to their role and collective vision or outcomes.
  • Do a better job at asking inclusive questions.
  • Always be creative and collaborative with your approach.
  • Ask for help when you need it.

When you practice these actions, you begin to drive a more supportive workplace culture that activates creative human potential, which is much more engaging, exciting and inviting than any old toxic workplaces tactics that tear down and discourage. Your company/business/institution only has potential, because human beings have great potential when empowered.

Your workplace culture is indeed the sum of the daily interactions between everyone in your organisation.

Lead with the mindset of “Being Real Matters” and watch this directive energy transform the interactions within your workplace community.

Being Real Matters… is the art of adding value.

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Elizabeth Ellames – The Change Agent

Finding Your Tribe

In this new era of consciousness, people are ‘waking up’ at a profoundly rapid rate. ‪ If you’re one of these newly awakened souls, chances are you’ve outgrown many areas of your life. Suddenly your career, lifestyle, relationships, and even entire friendship circles can feel foreign, so it’s an understatement to say you probably feel a little isolated.

Especially as you dive deep into an ocean of questions like…

Why am I here?

Where did we actually come from?

What is my higher purpose?

Be assured, if you’re embarking on an “awakened journey”, you are right where you need to be and finding your tribe is indeed a fundamental part of that journey. Here are some tips on consciously calling in your TribeTalkers©, the ones that fit your new reality and will support you on your journey.

Eight Keys To Calling In Your Tribe.

1. Be The Real Deal

Simply put ‘You need to be the Real Deal’… Before you can fully connect with your tribe you must know who you are and be living a life in alignment with that truth. You will attract like-minds – but they may be people who are simply matching what you are projecting out into the world. So if that’s an innocent mask of people pleasing, control or enabling, you’re connections will likely be of a similar nature.

2. Make Distinctions

Understand that the roles people have played in your life have given you a greater understanding and experience of life. Make distinctions around your spiritual growth, personal development, empowerment, and personal responsibility. Often blame justifies our current “Messy” or “Bland” lifestyle and can be a wonderful excuse for not creating what we really want. When you take full responsibility for your life, your past and your current relationships, it creates an awareness for authentic connection – your tribe won’t put up with B.S – they’ll hold you accountable to being the best version of you, call you on your stuff and inspire you to evolve, expand and fully come into being.

3. Identify And Clarify

Make a conscious decision about who you want to be for yourself and where you are heading, what you want and don’t want for your future, create the life and people around you who support that – many times you know what you don’t want because you’ve experienced it. Now its time to focus on what really works for your soul.

4. Review Your Relationships

Recognise old relationships that no longer serve who you wish to be – this doesn’t mean they are ‘bad’ or what they are choosing to do with their lives is wrong. Know that it takes a commitment to yourself to fosters the best version of you and to create boundaries around who influences your life.

5. Edify And Unify Your Connections

Identify the kindred spirits already in your life that support your highest evolution and consciously edify and unify those friendships, they are part of your tribe.

6. End Relationships That Hinder

Cut energetic ties that bind you to the past and to old ideas about who you think you are, and who others think you are. Allow yourself to be who you want to be from this moment forward and only create and sustain relationships that nourish and support this.

7. Add Value And Shine

Correct and transform any personal behavior that lowers your vibration and observe how you attract people who keep mirroring negative beliefs. Give yourself permission to shine. This may require gently re-educating some people about who you are as you evolve.

8. Raise Your Resonance

Call in your TribeTalkers© by becoming a vibrational match for who and what you want to attract into your life. If you want creative people who respect you and share an aligned vision, ask yourself:

  • Am I expressing my creativity?
  • Do I respect myself?
  • Am I clearly living my dreams and desires?

In Summary – You Must Recognize Your Tribe When You Find Them 

Understand how to recognise your TribeTalkers© when you connect with them. Be Brave, Be Real Be Present and notice when someone feels good to you energetically and take action to follow up the connection. Hint – If someone keeps on coming into your consciousness, chances are there’s a reason.

So, if you desire people in your life who…

  • understand who you ‘really’ are
  • who are in ‘your conversation’
  • inspire you to be a better person
  • restore your faith in humanity
  • make you feel appreciated, valued, and deeply understood…

Take the pledge to be the real deal, welcome these concepts into your life and your TribeTalkers© will be waiting on the other side.

Elizabeth Ellames

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