Give it to me NOW!

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.  

This is the number one mantra used in Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and a great tool for those struggling with any emotional addictions or substance addictions.  


Let’s have a think about this All the reasons why we cant respond to our heart’s desire are basically not true, and only feed our emotional addictions or our need for control… which we often hide behind.

Our ‘collective shadow-side’ has been running amuck for a long time and needs some serious transformation. We can either keep feeding its addiction or acknowledge its presence and decide to transform it into its full GLORY.

New Style Leadership is a vehicle of liberation and illumination Not a game of comparing and competition.

Wouldn’t it be great if we could collectively “correct and transform” the following;






Most people live with one or all of these addictions every day…. we can use this information to keep stuck in our old story/addiction or we can use it as a driver toward a new style of leadership.

Let’s transform our psyche from FADE to FLOURISH

So, if we have an addictive nature (and I believe all humans have) let’s change our addiction to one that works positively for all of us.

We could turn our “re-active impulse” into our soul’s “creative impulse”: Our Life Purpose

You know, that thing we just can’t live without… let our Obedient Heart be our compass of JOY… let joy become our fix, our next hit.

I have a burning desire to activate as many people as possible, so they can truly prosper in their glowing authenticity.

If this is my creative impulse, my positive addiction, bring it on… I want it now, give it to me, give it to me NOW!

What is it that’s driving your passionate desires?

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Goodbye to Gossip


Hello Integrity….. Dear old gossip has become an addiction for many women.

It is seductive and builds an unhealthy intimacy among women, which creates false security. I believe the female species will come to a place of contentment when this persistent obstacle is corrected and transformed.

Gossip is connected to these four faces of addiction.

  • boredom
  • competition
  • drama
  • low self-esteem

Realizing this is the first step to healing the addiction – from there we can choose to participate in it or not.

It is said the point of power is in the present and poor old Gossip is never in the present she is always going on about what was said or happened in the past. She weaves her words for the purpose of separation, which create a divide in friendships, family and community.

Gossip keeps everyone small and is always driven by fear. Women have relied on gossip to define their position in society and culture for centuries, but it is not necessary anymore. Women now have the opportunity to rise up out of this unproductive damaging behavior and create a new and prosperous culture for all women.

Gossip is a shadow deity whose time and face has come to an end. She has upgraded to the face of “Integrity”, who is evolving into the New Woman, the New Humanity and therefore there is no place for these old behaviors.

I say it is time to put our temptation to spread rumors to bed and start being more creative with our female conversations, after all, we are extremely creative beings.

For the record, the gossip on me is “why does she always have to be… so in ya’ face” well my response to that is – at least it’s to your face and not behind your back and bitchin’ in the kitchen so to speak.

Guess it all started with that wicked old queen in the story of Snow White who’s famous last words were “Mirror, Mirror on the wall who’s the fairest of them all” now she had a serious bitchin’ addiction.

Hope you can take this refreshing idea into your relationships and watch them bloom into something far greater than girly catch ups.


Living With Desire


It’s imperative that we bring forth our soul’s greatest desires.

Our life is a gift not to be squandered and if we pick only one true heartfelt desire to achieve in our outer world and only one heartfelt desire to achieve in our inner world, we can aid in the betterment of the whole world. In fact, if it changes us individually for the better it most defiantly will change the world because after all we are all connected by the Divine Web of Creation.

You might ask, “Why is this important?” It is because desire is the spark that ignites the flame of your soul and illuminates your innate creativity, imagination, and vision. Through your pure, heartfelt intention you will summon one of the most powerful agents of change in the universe—Desire.

So imagine if we really got cooking and accessed all our creativity and heartfelt desires – perhaps we really could create world peace.

In its purest form, your soul’s desire is a magnet pulling you toward the life you want to live. Your desires will source you with the inspiration to release your outdated beliefs and let go of whatever behavior is keeping you stuck in the past.

Your soul’s desires compel you to grow, evolve and move closer to your highest potential. Beneath the surface of your ego’s insatiable cravings, your authentic desires are waiting patiently for you to recognize, declare and communicate them.

My passion and quest are this – I am committed to raising self-esteem in women, young children, young women and the men in their life – I see an urgent need to ignite hidden desires and to help people step aboard the creative flow of life.

Joyously lifting them up from a mundane material world to a place of purpose and full expression.

I see that many young people have lost the ability to be creative – they’ve been born into a world where life has been presented to them by the means of “whatʼs in it for me?” and sadly when one comes from a place of constantly taking, they lose sight of whatʼs real and have no vision or more seriously they don’t develop the ability to give of themselves creatively.

Of course, it is not only our youth, but we also have been spoon feed information now for a couple of decades and have forgotten what it is like to explore and play in the realm of our imagination, in some ways we have forgotten how to really think, play and feel. Finding one’s self is more than a little personal development, it is a journey into the extraordinary fabric of the unseen worlds and the ability to bring back the treasures you found there.

Itʼs the ability to bring them back to our world and develop them for the greater good of all.

That is what a true Artisan, Visionary or Leader is – they are not afraid to be different, they don’t ask whatʼs in it for me, they are jubilant and thrilled to live their life with passion and conviction. They know how great it feels to be in flow with all that is and to use the time that they have been given wisely and to the best of their ability.

I am not saying that the information age and globalization has been entirely bad but sometimes when there is so much to choose from we choose nothing or just take what we are told we need.

What if this is the Humanitarian Age!

I invite you to share what your real deal passions and desires are in your life?

Revealing Your Gift

What follows is my take on revealing one’s gift to the world.

We’ve all had experiences that demonstrate what being a New Style Leader feels and looks like and how it works in our life.

And it is through my own social and spiritual discovery of our inner and outer worlds, that brought me closer to the experience of the New Style Leader within. As we create more harmony in our soul, we are able to draw from the worlds around us and within us.

What I am referring to is an insight I had many years ago, about everything having an available symbiotic system that works in harmony with each person. And of course, there are other systems that are equally available but don’t necessarily aid in the same harmonic fashion.

Some are life generating while others are for the purpose of entropy.

The Living Attributes Typology is a complete system for the purpose of creating harmony between your inner and outer worlds, and through this balancing process (correct & transform) of the soul’s environment you ultimately reach your true potential.

The acknowledgment of the Light in all things – celebrates the power of creation. Even if a person can’t fully embrace this experience at first, faith in it eventually delivers their true purpose to them. I believe the experience of attributes such as Unity, Love, Beauty, Peace, Joy, and Kindness are key factors in demonstrating and celebrating our creativity.

Through the use of symbolism (art), colour, words, sound (song) and union, there is a shift that occurs in ones whole system (self/body), graciously aiding in the shift of the whole and larger system (Earth). These mediums are in a way like portals to Other Worlds, they are systems and the environments for particular light/energy forms. These Light forms (energy forces) are available to work with us, they are there to guide us into our full expansion, where we become one with the authentic power of being a New Style Leader.

It is said that the universal law of attraction guides us toward – What it is we want to give. This explains beautifully how our gifts are our quintessential drivers toward fulfilling our true purpose in life. As we recognize and work with our point in the heart, which is our homing device, we instinctively reach home base – giving us more clarity and ease than when we randomly look for what we think brings us, Bliss. Once we know what our inbuilt homing device feels like, and ultimately what it feels like to come HOME, we can then let go of the fear/anxiety of whether or not we are on purpose in our life. This surrendering of our fixed outcomes is actually our ticket HOME and it’s in honoring our gifts to the world (true talents) that we find the correct vehicle that can actually take us there.

We often take our gift or gifts for granted because they seem to come easily to us and therefore think they are not of any great value. The Creator gave our gifts to us freely; it is up to us to use these gifts wisely and with great reverence. Our gift is the most valuable possession we will ever own in this lifetime, purely because of where it came from, Source. Let’s look a little closer at the word “gift”.

A gift is usually a symbolic gesture of gratitude or marks a celebration of some sort.  If we view our gifts as something of a celebration, and we usually like to celebrate with others, so let’s start celebrating our ability to share our gifts with the world.

Everything about our journey on Earth is about giving; the ability to give is the most joyous thing we can do. Keeping everything to our self for the purpose of only receiving is counterproductive. It eventually creates a vacuum and we become either energetically congested to the point of wanting to explode or we implode energetically not knowing how to deal with life outside our self; lost in a sea of “where am I, who am I and why am I?”

Understanding and accepting the nature of our true gifts brings us home again, there is nothing to become anymore because the surrender was really only surrendering to the true nature of who we are. The Shadow Self’s real fear is; The Fear Of Being Fully Seen And Heard. Either way, the fear will kill our light and kill the life we were meant to live (by the way ‘live’ spelled backward is ‘evil’). So the evil of not sharing our gift is actually not fully living our lives.


Image if these people didn’t share their gifts –

Rudolf Steiner, Joseph Campbell, Carl Jung, James Dean, Walt Disney, Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King Jr, Nelson Mandela, Michael Jackson, Edith Piaf, Shirley Temple, John Keats, Coco Chanel, Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerburg, Meryl Streep, Elizabeth Taylor, Audrey Hepburn, Richard Branson, Anita Rhodic, Greta Garbo, Charlie Chaplin, Louise Hay, Buck Minster Fuller, Carl Sagan, Steven Spielberg, George Lucas, Stevie Wonder, George Washington, Sri Krishna, Emperor Constantine, Martin Luther, Socrates, Charles de Gaulle, Franklin D. Roosevelt, Joan of Arc, Sir Isaac Newton , Queen Victoria , Benjamin Franklin, Confucius, Alexander the Great, Galileo Galilee, Mahatma Gandhi, Aristotle, Catherine the Great, Mozart, Princess Diana , Paul Newman, Oscar Wilde , Napoleon Bonaparte, Beethoven, Florence Nightingale, Leonardo da Vinci  Louis Pasteur, Leo Tolstoy, Mother Teresa, Pablo Picasso, Mohammed Ali, John F. Kennedy, Queen Elizabeth 1, Marie Curie, Eva Peron, Elvis Presley, Rosa Parks, Schubert, Desmond Tutu, Dalai Lama, Barack Obama, Jamie Oliver, J.K.Rowling, Jesus, Ernest Hemingway, John Lennon, Henry Ford, J.R.R.Tolkien, Marilyn Monroe, Oprah Winfrey, Jesse Owens, Bill Gates, Maya Angelou.

All these talented people have shared their gifts with the world and created a processional effect for many others. And of course, there are thousands of other individuals who have shared their gifts without the recognition. Interesting though, how all the people mentioned didn’t become less of themselves by sharing their gifts; in fact, they actually increased their presence because of it.

So if we view these wonderful role models and iconic figures as an example of what is possible, we see that if they hadn’t shared their gifts with the world, we wouldn’t be even having this conversation. Actually, I wouldn’t be able to write this article on my computer and send it out to the world. Their personal drive to do their work and share their gifts has served in evolving our planet in many ways. It doesn’t matter what arena we choose to play in, there is a divine reason why we have the gift that we do and from a big picture view, it is all-perfect.

The key factor here is – “Where do we like to be the most?”

This is how our inner homing device comes in to play; it’s our point in the heart that directs us like a compass to where we need to be. Each vocation is as important as the next.

The main areas of influence in the world are – Science, Arts, Industry, Education, Government and Wellbeing, all areas of creative expression aid in the evolution of the whole. When we are able to view life from a more conscious and contributing standpoint, our gifts begin to increase in value. We begin to see where we could be of value to the whole. We drop the need for it to be about money or personal gain and realize that our unique gifts are about giving to the world in the best way we can.

We are often hell-bent on collecting and holding on to what we think is rightfully ours – then it somehow slips away from us again. Like sand in an hourglass, we keep turning it up again hoping it will stay full this time. We haven’t learned the dance of giving a little here, give a little there and only take what you know you can give back.

Let’s remember we have and have always had something of amazing value to offer the world… our Gift.

Together we can celebrate the Gift that we were born to be and share… There is no beginning and there is no end, only the never-ending story – US.

What is your gift to the humanity that will light up the world?


Beauty is Balance

I believe true beauty is revealed to us when there is a combination of natural elements that are brought in to play. It is either an encounter of nature’s raw but pure presence or it can be the splendour of something or someone in an authentic or natural state. Beauty is also enhanced or created by the craftsmanship of an artist’s hand, eye, heart and soul.

I also believe that beauty is built through the way we interact in relationships. This sacred combination of love and trust also brings about another facet of beauty in our life and in us. It is when we feel loved and safe in relationships that we are able to know and really touch the beauty that rests deep in the hearts of others and ourself. This encounter builds a confidence in our personal presence and hence creates again something of beauty.

I see beauty as an astonishing but illusive phenomenon. I believe its magic and its mystery resides in the absolute balance and harmony of life its self.
Beauty is life’s exquisite expressions delivered with perfect precision.

So why is beauty so important to us…?

True Love invites the heart but it is True Beauty that invites the Soul and the Soul needs to be nourished with beauty everyday in order for us to grow into our own beauty as a human being. A person without the ability to feel, speak, see or create things of beauty is missing in the quintessential spirit of life its self.
Beauty signifies Balance in our world and by creating balance in our relationships; in our health and in our creative expression we bring about an order of sanctity.

We love the experience of beauty because it reminds us of heaven; it demonstrates that we can create a little of heaven here on earth and because of this simple but glorious notion we are given the gift of Hope.

Hope for a better world where true beauty is rightfully respected and we are all free to shine and create and heal what ever is out of balance. A world that is full of so much beauty; so much balance that we are taken into a new wave of evolution.

This is the world I choose to live in.
This is the world of sublime beauty.

What is Beauty to you?

Inter Connectivity

Connectivity is much more than we think and I can confidently say that it is through our connectivity that we are able to create. We often think consciousness is different in nature, but of course, it is ‘consciousness’ that is driving all of creation. I call this level of connective reality Communication Networks of Consciousness. Just like everything in nature, our consciousness also has infinite and finite systems that operate on the principle of pathways and connectivity. The cosmos is, in fact, a sea of communication (common-union).

Clarity of purpose while in common-union, creates. It is at this level of participation that true coherence can and will occur. Coherence is like the glue of creation, there needs to be a consistency in logical interconnection plus an overall sense or understanding between other operating parts. It may sound complicated in relation to community, but in fact, that is where we need to understand the nature of coherence most of all. Before we can really co-create we have to have coherence and before coherence, we have to have connectivity.

There are many levels of connectivity between humans, but it is only when there is a collective impulse of true purpose alive in a community that the creative process will activate and start moving forward. Each and every part of the whole must be in alignment with the desired outcome and each member must be fully present to their role in that outcome. The collective vision must always be the driver for the whole group.

For example, the Unite Your Light WOMEN’s original vision was to – 

Grow a New Humanity and the interconnected visions of the group were;

  • The New Woman 
  • The New Man 
  • The New Story 
  • The New Family 
  • The New Child 

which collectively is The New Humanity.

And when we were faced with a moment of conflict within our group or even within yourself, we needed to go straight to the collective vision to see why the conflict had arisen. It didn’t mean the conflict would disappear immediately, but rather we could see that the conflict was actually a creative conflict and a necessary part of our conscious evolution as a whole. It is at this point of choice that our vision would start to evolve into a reality.

The creative conflict is a re-aligning mechanism and in the process of correcting and transforming the creative conflict, we actually became the vision. In regards to how community needs to work together, this concept is leading edge. A community’s true function is unity and I believe the science of community is connectivity and coherence with each other. It is in our willingness and ability to correct and transform that brings us together as a community. The beauty of our collective outcome becomes a genuine part of the natural order and process. We as human beings are literally encoded and designed to successfully contribute to the evolution of humanity.

As human beings moving forward on this journey of evolution lets be mindful of what we are contributing to the whole, are you clear about your purpose, your function and the possible outcome of your actions?

Heart to Heart Elizabeth

What are your thoughts on this topic?

What is a United Heart Reality?

How did we created such an amazing and liberating phenomena?

We, as a community at Unite the Light have in a short time created an amazing connective power that I fondly call “United Heart Reality”. It is the practice of supporting each other from a place of absolute truth and trust. Not for personal development or gain but rather to make a valuable conscious contribution to the evolution of the planet and humanity.

A United Heart Reality is a new and promising example of humanity revealed through the beauty of unity. We have been supporting each other in being the best we can be and the light of TRUTH steps in to see it through. Over the years I have heard people use the phrase ‘sending you love and light’. What we are doing is taking that concept to a whole new level.

Love is the activator that brings in the Light.

As we move consciously through our shadow and remain committed to our group vision, the divine love starts to emerge through the Higher Heart and we find new Light/Life; this is a new and connected reality for many. Being connected in this way and operating from this place, is quiet different to anything one has experienced before. When we started the program back in January I made the statement ‘get connected and stay connected’ I have been saying it every week for the last three months. This small phrase indeed, means so much more, we have now all experienced the benefits of being connected heart to heart.

Staying connected builds resonance and a valuable coherence on our planet.

I believe we are meant to stay connected for a more profound reason than we can even imagine. So I encourage you, when you feel that vibrational or impulse in your heart, know that it is a whisper from your Soulality asking you to connect. Reach out, take the leap and let the love lift you into the light.

There is a new way of being in the world and we are it.

Love Elizabeth x

I invite you to share about your ‘united heart reality’.

My new best friend – The Unified Field


IMG_2020Our Unite Your Light meetings often started with a process that was both connecting with and informing the Unified Field of Consciousness.

One of the defining factors of the Unite Your Light group has been that we willingly participate with “the Field” to advance any of the development of our projects. This week we invited the field to connect to our individual archetypes and larger vision. Participating with the field in this way helps to maintain a strong conscious connection with our individual and collective visions.

We have been called to action many times thus far by the field, here are some of those actions.

  • Letting go of old controlling female behaviors.
  • A new style of leadership.
  • The birth of the New Woman.
  • Co-creative Chanting with the Field. (amazing experience)
  • Building coherence through transparent/truthful relationships.

I call The Unified Field my new best friend because it connects me to all that I love and value. I never knew how co-operative and how exciting it was to have around. Seems to be the more we connect with each other and the more we connect with the idea of creation, the more The Field gets involved. Every week I mention how important it is for us to stay connected, now I know it’s The Field reminding us that there isn’t really any separation out there, its really only in our heads. The more we stay connected, the more we have available to us for the purpose of evolution.

I know some may say “Sounds to me like you’re talking about God”. And yes perhaps I am. Maybe “The Field” is an amazing aspect of God and we have now evolved to a level of consciousness, which lets us partake in some of Gods infinite creation. What an incredible time to be on our planet.

Elizabeth Ellames

I invite you to share your experience with the Field?

New Dimensions Of Self

Our Unite Your Light meetings were very powerful. We’d arrive and were straight into a sacred process of bringing the New Woman Archetype fully into our being. This New Woman archetype has been a hidden dimension of women that has been patiently waiting until we were ready to let Mama Control go. The characteristic of Mama Control is basically women behaving badly.

  • The old divide and conquer tactic – Split the group through malicious or petty/idle gossip. (control)
  • Overt or covert displays of suffering – Constant complaining, comparing or judging of others. (control)
  • Seduction of another person’s loved ones – Husband, friends, or family. (control)
  • The subtle belittling of a person’s abilities and personal appearance. (control)            

The New Woman archetype, however, has been waiting to hear her call of “stand up and lead”, for her characteristics are very different. She no longer needs to control the people and environment that surround her in constant fear of retribution. She is free to be because the brothers and sisters of liberation that came before her have generously cleared her path. She said YES, I can hear you, grabbing the hand of the Creative Self as it pulled her up and out into the new world. Like any new experience or new environment, the terrain can feel a bit unusual or foreign, but at the same time, it can feel incredibly exciting and liberating.

We have now reached a new level of self. The way back is fading and it is time to stand strong in the energy of the New Woman. Our actions and pure presence gives other women the courage to find the New Woman within them self. The simple idea of focusing on what works will be a guiding force, which graciously lifts us to higher levels of consciousness. The processional effect of this birth is igniting new life on many levels, giving inspiration and motivation to others who are also willing and able to stand up and fully utilize their leader from within.

Elizabeth Ellames


What do you feel and think are some of the characteristics of the New Woman?