What is New Style Leadership?

Why is New Style Leadership necessary today?

How can New Style Leadership succeed in the real world?

New Style Leadership is not based on the old model of just seeing results; the old bottom line system address’ only one aspect of the whole process. While the New Style Leader focuses on staying in a unity-based context, which defines and gives structure to the role of the New Style Leader as a co-creator.

The first step in becoming a New Style Leader is saying YES to the call…

What does that mean?

A New Style Leader knows that social and spiritual awareness are one in the same and play a large part in being an effective leader. Saying yes to the call is actually saying yes to your conviction as a social and spiritual entrepreneur.

People may say “but I am not socially active and I am not particularly spiritual either”. Let’s view the idea of social and spiritual – there are many definitions in the dictionary that describe spiritual, many of which are focused on religion. I suggest this is not the case for most people in society.

Here are three definitions, which I believe are how many people view the idea of being social and spiritual today.

Definition – Social

  • Pertaining to, devoted to, or characterized by friendly companionship or relations.
  • Living or inclined to live in companionship with others or in a community, rather than in isolation.
  • Have or pertaining to the life, welfare, and relations of human beings in a community.

Definition – Spiritual

  • Relating to, consisting of, or having the nature of spirit; not tangible or material.
  • Pertaining to having a spirit or soul, different from the physical nature.
  • Having a relationship based on a profound level of mental or emotional unity, pertaining to a refined and higher quality of emotions and actions.

What I am suggesting here is the idea of being dedicated to social and spiritual awareness, which are at the heart of every New Style Leader and one cant create long-term effective change in the world without these two very powerful and necessary elements.

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Social and Spiritual  

We have turned to many metaphor duets over time and Social and Spiritual can indeed come under that category.

Here are just a few popular examples – as above/so below, within/without and the micro/the macro. The connection between Social and Spiritual awareness plays an important part in our human experience, we are much more than our immediate world of material matter, we are also made up of our inner more sensitive world of emotions, which are connected to our thoughts, feelings, desires, and visions for a promising future.

However, the moment one starts to talk in these terms, their audience often becomes dismissive, defensive, and disagreeable. Perhaps that’s because people have thought you must keep social and spiritual concepts separate.

But what if keeping them separate has actually created many of the hardships we are facing today. I believe there is no separation between social and spiritual; unfortunately, humanity is repeatedly creating this illusion of separation, which is supporting our unstable and disturbing reality.

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The New Style Leaders role requires bringing these two worlds/realities; social and spiritual together. It doesn’t involve becoming a preacher or religious person. All it requires is the desire to cultivate a promising future for humanity, one where both social and spiritual needs are met and respected.

It is acknowledging, honoring, and participating in the process of creation…

Every culture throughout early civilization was centered on a creation myth of some kind. A creation myth (or creation story) is a cultural, traditional or religious myth, which describes the earliest beginnings of the present world. Creation myths are the most common form of myth, usually developing first in oral traditions, and are found throughout human culture. A creation myth is usually regarded as conveying profound truths, although not necessarily in a historical or literal sense.

They are cosmology myths, which describe the ordering of the cosmos from a state of chaos or nothingness. What I am suggesting is that all human culture was originally based on similar concepts, like the social and spiritual connection. This is not a new or unusual concept; perhaps we have just forgotten the nature of our origins. I’m not saying we need to return to such ancient practices, but rather we can draw on these ideas that were unity-based.

Basic types of creation myths are: EARTH DIVER – EMERGENCE – OUT OF NOTHING – WORLD PARENT – CREATION FROM CHAOS

Here are three simple definitions that I believe are aligned to the social and spiritual model of leadership. I see the concept and application of creation and co-creation as being a very valuable tool in our world today.

Definition – Creation

  • The act or process of creating.
  • Something that has been brought into existence or created.
  • The act of creating or engendering; give rise to.

These three neutral definitions of creation also provide a great platform from which to form a new and stronger style of leadership. The idea of creation is the combination of being in the continuous process of social and spiritual activity. Creation could, in fact, be the process and the result of how we grow as human beings.

We are creation its self, so through the process of becoming socially and spiritually creative, it enhances our ability to create even more. Creating a new, creating together, creating social systems and creating spiritually sound relationships. This is how we grow a vibrant and creative new humanity.

I don’t see an end to the process, but rather it requires a commitment to stay in the process until your time is up; your personal life cycle is complete. We need to stay in a continuous process of creation in order for the new humanity to remain just that; it must always remain in a state of new.

New Style Leaders collectively have the what, why, how and vision to respond to the call of creation.

So, in conclusion, I suggest that social and spiritual are actually one of the same and do need to co-exist. We require social structures that have a sound unity-based context, in order for the refined qualities of our human spirit to be creative and fully expressed. The New Style Leader is committed to maintaining and repairing the social and spiritual fabric of humanity. The New Style Leader is prepared to stay in the process of creation for as long as it takes to fulfill their life’s purpose.

If we are able to observe the perfected patterns of nature; Creation, desirable results form organically and the true nature of success takes up its rightful place in community and humanity.

From a paper written by Elizabeth Ellames | Oct 2013

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Our Story Creates Identity And Connection

Storytelling is the way we build our identity as human beings. And the weavers of those stories come in the form of traditional archetypes.

Ultimately the memories we choose to tell form carefully placed scenes of our story; which then inform our life purpose.

We are what we share and we only share if we care –

So, it’s simply inappropriate to brush off our experiences as dull or insignificant. How we choose to connect to our stories is what makes an interesting meaningful story arc.

What we choose to say and share is extremely important, whether its last weeks school graduation as a meaningful event, the birth of a child or the death of a loved one as a turning point, it doesn’t matter what the event, but rather it’s the essence, the emotion, the spirit that’s expressed about the moment that really matters.

Finding a genuine, formative moment in your story is always going to be a powerful and valuable contribution to your reader or audience. Our stories are what teach us and guide us toward our humanity.

Do you have a story that needs to be shared?

How to live an extraordinary life?

There’s lots of information out there today about how important it is to have a vibrant personal and professional brand?

But what does that really mean?

And how do you get there? 

I have explored years of personal development with my clients and on myself, but nothing beats applying “The Process Of Story” – It is indeed the most powerful personal development and branding exercise I have ever experience.

The real secret to developing a great brand is indeed ‘Owning the value of your STORY’ because it’s your story that informs your purpose, and it’s your purpose that informs your brand, in fact, your brand is your purpose!

This is my story of how I changed my life for the better… how I moved from a ‘nice life’ to an ‘extraordinary life’ enriched with mastery.

I Committed To Knowing My Self – I first needed to really know what my gifts were, which required identifying my archetypical patterning. Because it was through the process of recognizing my archetypes and values that I learned who I really was, which then lead to what I had to offer.

I Decided To Trust My Self – The next step was clarifying my shadow attributes and in doing so, I began to trust myself even more, by highlighting some of these attributes I started to see where I had been operating out of alignment. In a nutshell, I got to see in my life what was working and what wasn’t working, which gave me the clarity and courage to correct and transform persistent and unproductive behaviors. This new practice accelerated my trust in myself and built a lasting confidence in the benefits of my new awareness and actions. I began to see how everything in life was connected. 

I Discovered My Story – I created a gentle pause in my current life so I could reflect on my life gone by, and wholeheartedly began to write my story – Where I had come from and who had contributed to my life, both good and bad. I took time over it, making sure what came forth was indeed leading me to see why I was here, where gifts would be of value and who I could best serve.

I Discovered My Purpose – I then got very specific about what, why, who and how I was going to add value and by the way, this is everyone’s purpose is in life; to add value. I know that sounds too simple, but its been my experience over and over again that people who have a desire to be on purpose also want to add value to our world, they seem to go hand in hand. I then developed a personal brand that was all about quality, initiative, and consistency. I devotedly attended to defining and refining my self- exploration, which essentially revealed my true value.

I Began To Live A Larger Story – I confidently made the decision to live a larger story, because I knew I had dreams, desires and a healthy dose of direction. I also knew I wanted to step up and step out as a new style leader. Once I’d established where I could add value to the world and why I was the best person for that role, the rest followed naturally. Now I’m not saying its always-smooth sailing or I didn’t come face to face with a few emotional challenges. Because I did – that’s the nature of our human experience and we all know that a really good story requires plenty of colour, emotion, and texture to make it truly interesting.

So, that is how I got extremely clear on what I am here to do and how I want to spend my time; my life.

Elizabeth Ellames

What about you, have you made some valuable distinctions about your brand?

WHY we need STORY

animals-avian-beach-760984We long for connection with all that is curious and creative.

We are creatures who belong to each other for reasons beyond analysis, for it is our heart’s desire and our life’s dream to fulfill a worthy story.

We ache with a need to connect and create or sadly the other is we become numb and silently indifferent.

Yet it is the never-ending and renewed STORY that is forever wanting to grow through us… I urge you, dear storytellers of our time, to be at one with its magical forces. For in truth there is nothing but Story, it is what teaches us and what sustains us as human beings. STORY informs our purpose, but more importantly, it gives humanity its Soul.

– Elizabeth Ellames

Do you have a story wanting to grow through you?

Give it to me NOW!

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.  

This is the number one mantra used in Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and a great tool for those struggling with any emotional addictions or substance addictions.  

 

Let’s have a think about this All the reasons why we cant respond to our heart’s desire are basically not true, and only feed our emotional addictions or our need for control… which we often hide behind.

Our ‘collective shadow-side’ has been running amuck for a long time and needs some serious transformation. We can either keep feeding its addiction or acknowledge its presence and decide to transform it into its full GLORY.

New Style Leadership is a vehicle of liberation and illumination Not a game of comparing and competition.

Wouldn’t it be great if we could collectively “correct and transform” the following;

THESE ARE THE FOUR MAIN EMOTIONAL ADDICTIONS.

CONFLICT

SUFFERING

WITH-HOLD

ENABLING

Most people live with one or all of these addictions every day…. we can use this information to keep stuck in our old story/addiction or we can use it as a driver toward a new style of leadership.

Let’s transform our psyche from FADE to FLOURISH

So, if we have an addictive nature (and I believe all humans have) let’s change our addiction to one that works positively for all of us.

We could turn our “re-active impulse” into our soul’s “creative impulse”: Our Life Purpose

You know, that thing we just can’t live without… let our Obedient Heart be our compass of JOY… let joy become our fix, our next hit.

I have a burning desire to activate as many people as possible, so they can truly prosper in their glowing authenticity.

If this is my creative impulse, my positive addiction, bring it on… I want it now, give it to me, give it to me NOW!

What is it that’s driving your passionate desires?

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CONTACT ME TODAY

TEL: 040 330 9696
elizabeth.ellames@ozemail.com.au

 

KIND is the new COOL

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The REAL DEAL Benefits Of Being Socially Responsible in Business

There are benefits on both sides of being a socially responsible business. We all like to connect with good people, as do customers, who also prefer to associate with good businesses. And being a socially responsible business is a great way to attract positive attention to your organization, and also make your employees feel proud to be part of your enterprise. But before you can do this, it’s important to have clearly defined core values.

Build Your Brand From The Inside Out

Being socially responsible is a great way to build your brand, and create a positive name for yourself. Things like goodwill, trust, and an overall positive image are possible through being socially responsible. If you support the right type of cause, there can also be many co-branding and marketing opportunities.

Attract And Engage Appropriate Talent

Gen Y and Gen X are generally suspicious of big business, the government, and the media. And are especially connected to working for socially responsible companies. Millennial case studies show that around 80 percent of 13- to 25-year-olds surveyed want to work for businesses that care about their effect on society. Others studies have found that MBA graduates would prefer to sacrifice on average $11,000 of their annual salary to work for a socially responsible establishment. The current trends show that people really do want to make a difference in the world, and this is a great way to attract and engage the appropriate talent in your business. When staff members are proud of where they work they feel a sense of loyalty, which makes them ambassadors for the business.

People Want To Contribute To Something That Makes A Difference And Has A Positive Impact On The World

People Love Being Socially Responsible

Many studies have found that 50% of consumers, surveyed worldwide would be willing to pay more for goods and services from socially responsible companies. The caution is, and this is important for businesses to think about, is that in countries where there was already some disbelief, the willingness to spend more was lower. This means that businesses and the initiatives you’re applying need to be totally authentic. It’s extremely important to always be demonstrating “inclusiveness, kindness and transparency,” in everything from your business culture to your promotional campaigns.

It Helps To Encourage Connectivity And Engagement 

When you include your team in larger processes and vision planning, such as designing and applying a socially responsible initiative for your business. They’ll feel that they are part of something bigger, inspired, that they have influence and can create impact. Therefore they will be more engaged and generally speaking, people are most engaged when they feel part of a collective, rather than bound to their usual role and tasks.

It Keeps Your Business Innovative

Choosing to have a unique and value-add impact, as a business, and doing things differently to your competitors helps your business stand out more. This applies to all areas of business, including a socially responsible business. Your relationship with society is as important as your relationship with customers. Having a strong vision and connection to a cause that makes a positive impact provides a genuine “value add, caring, and innovative advantage.”

Collaborative Leadership For Good 

Being a small operation or a ‘sole trader’ needn’t hold you back from becoming a socially responsible business. The same principles apply whether your business is large or small. You can still be an inspiration, influence others and create social impact by simply collaborating with other small business owners, consultants and sole traders that have aligned values and who are equally passionate about making a positive difference in the world.

CONTACT ME TODAY

Tel 040 330 9696

elizabeth.ellames@ozemail.com.au

 

Real Deal Power

Slide10Many female leaders mistakenly try to balance the shortcomings of dominant leadership by “over-relying” on their passive leadership tools such as empathy and collaboration. But getting people together to figure out what their Primary Vision is and what it needs, can easily lead to more confusion.

It can also weaken the power of women who may be misplacing their emotional intelligence when it’s their practical intelligence that will really make the difference.

However, a new style leader needs to demonstrate their Real Deal Power and cut through the confusion by constantly “simplifying the complexities” that are presented.

  • She is able to articulate the big picture and the necessary priorities using an array of simple directive statements, not commands or demands, but rather discerning and objective distinctions.
  • She always links her actions to the urgent needs of the project at hand and the culture of the company or team.
  • She can articulate the strategic plans of the project as clearly as a CEO.
  • She states what must be done immediately and has a question such as, “Does it make sense to you all that we replace our program development reviews with short, biweekly feedback sessions since people need a constant flow of coaching to stay focused on emerging priorities?”

And it’s wise to remember not to open any of these clarifying questions with a “Why”, because this can often imply that there is a level of judgment present and may bring about even more confusion.

Slide14This technique of making recommendations in the form of a question consistently raises her position of effective power. Her questions frame the discussion and contain compelling “if-then and what next” logic. It also helps her not fall into the trap of either complaining about or insisting on a change she wants to make.

This technique is not trivial.

There is plenty of research that confirms when women try to exert power using the same techniques as dominant males they actually reduce their power and influence and become labeled as “overly aggressive or worse…”

To sum it up, if we want to increase our power girls, we need to simplify confusion, clarify priorities, and lead people to follow us by asking them the appropriate “what’s next” or “where next” questions.

Above all adopt a real deal leadership approach. Don’t wait for orders and don’t spend your life trying to achieve other people’s goals.

Your ideas and goals are more than likely the Real Deal… So, You Go Girl!

What are​ Attention and Intention?

What does it take to perfect clarity again and again throughout your life?

It takes “CLARITY of INTENTION” – which simply means placing your attention on how your personality and skill set can add value to the lives of others. It also requires tuning in with the same enthusiasm, heart to heart connection, vulnerability, and openness that you felt at the time of your project’s inception, and then be willing to listen to and observe any synchronicities that present themselves.

Attention and Intention are how you build quality RESONANCE – this means cultivating alignment, hovering around it, reclaiming it and correcting and transforming your behavior again and again – plus watching with honesty and compassion to the what, why and how of all your actions.

You must totally trust that the Unified Field, Your Future Self, and Your Spirit has been informing you of your role as a co-creator in all that you have been creating.

Being in synch with the larger intention (The Field) – will give you the courage to open your heart and mind to social innovation, to speak out even when you are the only person in the room with that perception.

Don’t doubt what you are supposed to be doing – when you align your values and motives to serve the “greater creative impulse”, you begin to see it’s actually facilitating you.

That doesn’t mean you don’t occasionally lose hope, clarity, or inner peace. However it does mean that you know how to regain it, and it always comes down to tuning into something greater than yourself and aligning with the creative impulse, which is moving in the same direction, accompanying you as you go.

How do you achieve this? – By simply meditating each morning for 15 – 60 minutes a day before doing anything else. Contemplating, tuning in, asking, listening and waiting until you are fully relaxed and grateful before you get up and begin the rest of your day. I know that might seem like a long time for some people, but the results are worth it.

You could look at it this way time = live not money – and your Future Self requires you to create some uninterrupted Time and Space each day to ensure you continue to have Clarity of Intention – I encourage you to decided that approximately 4 hours in a week of 168 hours, isn’t really much to contribute to gain the clarity of intention and a deep sense of connection you need to keep on purpose. Also recognizing that the “peak” synchronistic events that you have experienced in life, along with your daily meditation help you maintain your resonance, which in turn allows these synchronistic events to keep occurring organically.

Acknowledging these experiences is a reminder of what’s possible – choose to be in this resonance as often as you possibly can: A co-creative, connected, clear place where your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, conversations and actions are all aligned with your purpose.

Here is a short verse to use when seeking guidance around your co-creation and purpose.

Dear Future Self…

Please show me if this project I want to initiate or be a part of is part of a greater creative impulse, which is authentically correcting and transforming our world – and directly moving toward…

SYNERGY, PEACE, LOVE, PROSPERITY and UNITY.

If it is, I am happy to be an instrument of this conscious evolution and I will generously use my personal empowerment to serve this larger vision. I simply need to know this isn’t just me doing something willfully, independent of a larger purpose and intention.

 

 

The Value Of Connecting Face To Face

“We succeed when we help others succeed” this is the Unite Your Light WOMEN motto and actually is one of my motto’s in life. 

Thursday 8th of Dec 2016 was our first event at The Lion Hotel – And I am delighted to say it showed signs of being a very valuable meet up for women who want to shine a light on their story, their strengths, their success and their spirit. #UniteYourLightWOMEN Thank you to all who attended and I look forward to allowing our heartfelt intentions to grow into wonderful and valuable ventures. Elizabeth Ellames

If you choose to come along to our next event… here are a series of backstory questions that could really add depth and value to your brand and pitch.

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These simple questions are to be asked and answered quickly:

Who am I –

  • Where was I born?
  • Where do I come from?
  • Who is my family?
  • What is my background/my family identity?
  • What am I grateful for?
  • What and who have made me who I am?

What’s my experience –

  • What am I inspired and motivated by?
  • What am I passionate about?
  • What work have I done?
  • What have I had to overcome, and what are my triumphs?

How do I add value –

  • What am I good at?
  • What are my special skills?
  • Why do people love me, and what do I do to maintain that?
  • What has made me unique and exceptional?
  • What kind of attitude do I have?
  • What can I do for others?
  • What makes me successful that is not about my technical or professional experience?

Being real matters and “Your Story” creates your value.

So, learn to be comfortable with sharing your story and values, because that’s what people connect to and also what they share.

Elizabeth Ellames – Tel: 040 330 9696

  www.livingattributes.com

Does life really change?

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What I LOVED to play as a child… 

When I was with others.

  • I loved, loved, loved going to the Movies.
  • I loved creating characters and stories for my playmates that we could play out together, which had invisible or sometimes visible glamorous costumes (when they were available.)
  • I loved listening to stories that my Nana would share with me from her childhood, while we made seasonal fare – like Pasty Slice or Green Tomato Pickles.
  • I loved playing all my mums “singles” on my little record player and pretending to be a Go-Go dancer with my friends in our lounge room on a Saturday afternoon.
  • I loved watching Disneyland in my freshly washed PJ’s on a Sunday night. Just out of the bath, hair washed and already for the school week ahead.

When I was on my own.

  •  I Loved Drawing
  •  I Loved Baking
  •  I Loved Playing with my dolls and pets.
  •  I Loved thinking up “Ideas” of what I could be when I grew up.

When I was about 5 years old I asked my Nana “what do you call a person who makes women beautiful”. Out of the mouths of babes!

How divinely ordered our life is, clearly it was always my mission in life to reveal the True Beauty of women, to empower women so they can share their creativity and gift with the world so they can share their Story; their True Value, their Life Purpose. 

Can you recall any desires or feelings of memorable moments from your childhood?

What did you LOVE to play as a child? Chances are it’s still the same…

(and yes the black and white photo is me)