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What is New Style Leadership?

Why is New Style Leadership necessary today?

How can New Style Leadership succeed in the real world?

New Style Leadership is not based on the old model of just seeing results; the old bottom line system address’ only one aspect of the whole process. While the New Style Leader focuses on staying in a unity-based context, which defines and gives structure to the role of the New Style Leader as a co-creator.

The first step in becoming a New Style Leader is saying YES to the call…

What does that mean?

A New Style Leader knows that social and spiritual awareness are one in the same and play a large part in being an effective leader. Saying yes to the call is actually saying yes to your conviction as a social and spiritual entrepreneur.

People may say “but I am not socially active and I am not particularly spiritual either”. Let’s view the idea of social and spiritual – there are many definitions in the dictionary that describe spiritual, many of which are focused on religion. I suggest this is not the case for most people in society.

Here are three definitions, which I believe are how many people view the idea of being social and spiritual today.

Definition – Social

  • Pertaining to, devoted to, or characterized by friendly companionship or relations.
  • Living or inclined to live in companionship with others or in a community, rather than in isolation.
  • Have or pertaining to the life, welfare, and relations of human beings in a community.

Definition – Spiritual

  • Relating to, consisting of, or having the nature of spirit; not tangible or material.
  • Pertaining to having a spirit or soul, different from the physical nature.
  • Having a relationship based on a profound level of mental or emotional unity, pertaining to a refined and higher quality of emotions and actions.

What I am suggesting here is the idea of being dedicated to social and spiritual awareness, which are at the heart of every New Style Leader and one cant create long-term effective change in the world without these two very powerful and necessary elements.

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We have turned to many metaphor duets over time and Social and Spiritual can indeed come under that category.

Here are just a few popular examples – as above/so below, within/without and the micro/the macro. The connection between Social and Spiritual awareness plays an important part in our human experience, we are much more than our immediate world of material matter, we are also made up of our inner more sensitive world of emotions, which are connected to our thoughts, feelings, desires, and visions for a promising future.

However, the moment one starts to talk in these terms, their audience often becomes dismissive, defensive, and disagreeable. Perhaps that’s because people have thought you must keep social and spiritual concepts separate.

But what if keeping them separate has actually created many of the hardships we are facing today. I believe there is no separation between social and spiritual; unfortunately, humanity is repeatedly creating this illusion of separation, which is supporting our unstable and disturbing reality.

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The New Style Leaders role requires bringing these two worlds/realities; social and spiritual together. It doesn’t involve becoming a preacher or religious person. All it requires is the desire to cultivate a promising future for humanity, one where both social and spiritual needs are met and respected.

It is acknowledging, honoring, and participating in the process of creation…

Every culture throughout early civilization was centered on a creation myth of some kind. A creation myth (or creation story) is a cultural, traditional or religious myth, which describes the earliest beginnings of the present world. Creation myths are the most common form of myth, usually developing first in oral traditions, and are found throughout human culture. A creation myth is usually regarded as conveying profound truths, although not necessarily in a historical or literal sense.

They are cosmology myths, which describe the ordering of the cosmos from a state of chaos or nothingness. What I am suggesting is that all human culture was originally based on similar concepts, like the social and spiritual connection. This is not a new or unusual concept; perhaps we have just forgotten the nature of our origins. I’m not saying we need to return to such ancient practices, but rather we can draw on these ideas that were unity-based.

Basic types of creation myths are: EARTH DIVER – EMERGENCE – OUT OF NOTHING – WORLD PARENT – CREATION FROM CHAOS

Here are three simple definitions that I believe are aligned to the social and spiritual model of leadership. I see the concept and application of creation and co-creation as being a very valuable tool in our world today.

Definition – Creation

  • The act or process of creating.
  • Something that has been brought into existence or created.
  • The act of creating or engendering; give rise to.

These three neutral definitions of creation also provide a great platform from which to form a new and stronger style of leadership. The idea of creation is the combination of being in the continuous process of social and spiritual activity. Creation could, in fact, be the process and the result of how we grow as human beings.

We are creation its self, so through the process of becoming socially and spiritually creative, it enhances our ability to create even more. Creating a new, creating together, creating social systems and creating spiritually sound relationships. This is how we grow a vibrant and creative new humanity.

I don’t see an end to the process, but rather it requires a commitment to stay in the process until your time is up; your personal life cycle is complete. We need to stay in a continuous process of creation in order for the new humanity to remain just that; it must always remain in a state of new.

New Style Leaders collectively have the what, why, how and vision to respond to the call of creation.

So, in conclusion, I suggest that social and spiritual are actually one of the same and do need to co-exist. We require social structures that have a sound unity-based context, in order for the refined qualities of our human spirit to be creative and fully expressed. The New Style Leader is committed to maintaining and repairing the social and spiritual fabric of humanity. The New Style Leader is prepared to stay in the process of creation for as long as it takes to fulfill their life’s purpose.

If we are able to observe the perfected patterns of nature; Creation, desirable results form organically and the true nature of success takes up its rightful place in community and humanity.

From a paper written by Elizabeth Ellames | Oct 2013

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Give it to me NOW!

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.  

This is the number one mantra used in Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and a great tool for those struggling with any emotional addictions or substance addictions.  

 

Let’s have a think about this… All the reasons why we cant respond to our heart’s desire are basically not true, and only feed our emotional addictions or our need for control… which we often hide behind.

Our ‘collective shadow-side’ has been running amuck for a long time and needs some serious transformation. We can either keep feeding its addiction or acknowledge its presence and decide to transform it into its full GLORY.

New Style Leadership is a vehicle of liberation and illumination… Not a game of comparing and competition.

Wouldn’t it be great if we could collectively “correct and transform” the following;

THESE ARE THE FOUR MAIN EMOTIONAL ADDICTIONS.

CONFLICT

SUFFERING

WITH-HOLD

ENABLING

Most people live with one or all of these addictions every day…. we can use this information to keep stuck in our old story/addiction or we can use it as a driver toward a new style of leadership.

Let’s transform our psyche from FADE to FLOURISH

So, if we have an addictive nature (and I believe all humans have) let’s change our addiction to one that works positively for all of us.

We could turn our “re-active impulse” into our soul’s “creative impulse”: Our Life Purpose

You know, that thing we just can’t live without… let our Obedient Heart be our compass of JOY… let joy become our fix, our next hit.

I have a burning desire to activate as many people as possible, so they can truly prosper in their glowing authenticity.

If this is my creative impulse, my positive addiction, bring it on… I want it now, give it to me, give it to me NOW!

What is it that’s driving your passionate desires?

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You Are What You Share

We all know personal branding is important for most people today, not just celebrities and entrepreneurs.

Today when someone connects with you about your business or career, they need to understand who you are; they want to know what you’re about and whether you can add value.

Many people fall short though; either by ignoring their personal brand, thinking their work will somehow speak for itself… I have spent several years designing what I believe to be the best possible formula to identify the very essence of one’s personal branding. Over the last 20 years, I have explored branding through a few different avenues.

One is the development of Living Attributes, which is a typology (tool) that helps you to identify the value of your unique story; your brand. Its design and application build a lasting confidence by uncovering your true potential. Purpose-Based Branding goes way beyond the usual landscape of conventional branding, which only focused on highlighting a person’s professional identity. The refreshing approach to Purpose-Based Branding invites you and your audience or community to develop a quality relationship built on integrity and empowerment.

Secondly, over a three-year period, I had the privilege of working closely with an amazing team of women. In our third year together, with great conviction, they identified and developed their “Purpose-Based” brand from the inside out. As the facilitator of their powerful process, I also learned a wealth of knowledge about what works and what doesn’t when it comes to creating a brand based on your values. Each of these women has now moved on to form their own business and are forming communities around those businesses, they are indeed a shining example of Purpose, Passion, and Promise.

Here are my top insights on where people can fall short around their personal branding – and how you can avoid those mistakes.

#1. Distinction – The importance of creating a relatable and engaging story.

Most people assume that others will just “get it” when it comes to their brand: “Can’t you just work it out… can’t you see what or why I’m doing it?” Well no… Not really. Unless you take the time to explain yourself and fill them in, they probably won’t take the time to work it out and will come up with a conflicting version of who you are or won’t think much about your brand at all.

Tell your own GREAT STORY – don’t leave it to others to do it on your behalf, unless they have the full story and are telling it for all the right reasons. Remember your STORY informs your PURPOSE and creates your VALUE. This is a vital starting point that can make all the difference to how you present your message to the world.

#2. Distinction – The importance of finding out everything about your personal brand.

It is so easy to think we know and understands our personal brand. It’s basically who we think we are, yeah? Of course, when we take a deeper look, it’s easy to see the misconception.

Your personal brand isn’t just who you say you are; It’s actually all about…

  • identifying and clarifying WHAT your real talent is,
  • specifying HOW you love to express and share that talent
  • and WHY it is so very important to you
  • and WHO your brand is for…  and does it add value to their life.

Once you know your WHAT, HOW and WHY… your WHO it’s for, becomes much clearer. I have found the following to be the best way to uncover all of the above.

By applying the simple formula of… IDENTIFY, CLARIFY, SPECIFY, EDIFY and UNIFY you become crystal clear about what your personal brand looks like, feels like and what it communicates to others.

#3. Distinction –  The importance of living the core values of your brand.

The days are gone where creating a personal brand was just coming up with a clever resume, getting yourself a stylish makeover and a reasonable elevator pitch. Your personal brand is indeed far more than just what you say about yourself. It’s all about how people feel about you, what they perceive about you and what they find out about you based on your web presence. They want to know how you relate to them and others, what kind of tribes you associate with, what kind of leadership roles you’ve taken on, the type of content you share, the concepts and the new ideas you circulate.

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Key Principles:

  • You are WHAT you SHARE
  • Your STORY informs your PURPOSE 
  • And your PURPOSE is to ADD VALUE 
  • Which then CREATES your REAL VALUE

A lot of unsuccessful entrepreneurs figure that as long as they talk the current lexicon, they will be seen to be in the know. But it doesn’t work like that anymore. This new way takes effort, focus, and transparency to work, and that means living out your brand values consistently, each and every day. If people sense even the slightest bit of discord or imitation, it renders everything else you do as fake.

People want the REAL DEAL today –

Ensure that every action you take is aligned with how you want to be seen by your tribe and peers. However, it’s been my experience that not everyone is willing to make that kind of commitment to their brand.

Do you want to stand out, get noticed and be an influencer?

If so, you have to commit to your purpose, your passion, and your promise… for example, you need to be writing blog posts about trends YOU see in your industry, connect with other groups of people or perhaps create your own community or group, and start speaking at events to share your vision. When people see you living out your message, your brand, that’s when your brand will really become a valuable asset in your life and the lives of others.

Avoiding these mistakes will help others know what you are offering them, and allows you to be a leading edge contributor.

Take your brand to the next level and contact me – Elizabeth Ellames 

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Email – elizabeth.ellames@ozemail.com.au

Mobile – 040 330 9696

Your Vision Steers Your Leadership Style

Ask yourself these questions:

  • Do I really know what makes my heart sing?
  • What do I usually tell myself to avoid taking action?
  • What does my role as a New Style Leader give me?
  • How do I measure my improvements?
  • Do I believe I can make positive changes in the world?
  • What do I already know? What skills do I have?
  • What do I want to communicate and participant in?
  • What are my personal values?
  • What have I learned from my experience, and how can I apply that now?
  • What can I offer to support our team vision?
  • Do I need encouragement?
  • How do I feel about my current reality as a New Style Leader?
  • Am I happy in my role?
  • Where am I on my social and spiritual path?

These questions are to help you gain a clearer picture of what you may need as an up and coming New Style Leader, and what changes you may consider making to enhance your experience.

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Discovering your Creative Self.

Know yourself.Decide what your larger vision is.Think about what you value most in life, and how your current vision could match that value.

Brush up on techniques. Perhaps you might need to get advice in some areas, or some guidance. Talking to a mentor or spiritual counselor may help here. Or it may be time for you to become a mentor.

Keep a cool eye and a firm hand.Commit to a course of action with your team or perhaps you need to find a team and apply an ongoing strategy that will aid in keeping your focus as a team.

Enjoy your role as a New Style Leader. Reward yourself and feel good about what you have committed to and where you are heading.

Elizabeth Ellames

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Are you connected?

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Create COMMUNITY

Community is where you build your style of leadership. It is through your community that you see how your vision and talents as a new style leader benefit others. By creating a community you are enrolling others to support your leadership and vision as well as their own.

Community needs leadership.

Is life meant to be soft, hard or fun?

#2: Express COURAGE

Don’t wait to feel courageous. Act courageously even when you feel it the least. Only when you act in the face of fear do you validate your true bravery and boldness. Be audacious in accepting challenges. Calculate your risks to help reduce apprehension, then defy your fear and step forward.

Courage Cultivates Leadership.

 

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Collective Visioning

Lead with questions, not answers…

New style leadership doesn’t mean coming up with the answers and motivating people or your team to your larger vision. It means having the humility to see that you don’t have all the answers and to ask questions that will lead to the best people with the insights to make your vision a collective one.

Living in a world of rapid change and constant competition it still comes back to the reality that companies don’t innovate and get results, people do.

A new style leader who is serious about creating a culture that unleashes creative potential to overcome issues and introduce innovation will succeed. They say the best way to respond to change is to create it.

Great leaders who take on the role of coaching and encouraging people can better navigate the future through the practice of collective visioning.

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Experience the Experience

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When my boys were young, like most children they developed the practice of wanting to share their new experiences. Be it drawing, riding a bike, climbing trees or skateboarding…. They wanted their Dad and I to share in their newfound experience.

In a way they were saying, “I’m here, I exist, I want to be seen and heard… I want to experience being experienced by you.” And as human beings, we never really lose that. Because we actually grow from the experience of being experienced.

We might be more sophisticated about how we do it or say it, but ultimately we want to let the world know that we are here and that we matter.

If we are promoting a product or service and are asking for people’s money or precious time — we must first see and value who they are. We need to know them as well as we know our self, as well as we know our family and friends.

We must master the art of identifying our clients/audience needs and then express and address those needs with absolute clarity.

Abraham Maslow the American psychologist share this many years ago. He was best known for creating Maslow’s Hierarchy Of Needs, a theory of psychological health, which suggested that the fulfilling of innate human needs in priority… resulted in self-actualization.

What follows is an adapted version from a branding point of view. Our brand needs to meet the needs of our audience; our tribe. It’s that simple! We need to identify three components of that understanding:

Desires – Recognition – Beliefs.

Theses elements – Desire, Recognition, and Beliefs are the three parts of your audience’s mind, which are the raw materials you work with to truly serve your audience and add value to their life.

First… DESIRE

When we are young children what we want makes up a large part of who we are. And of course, that doesn’t stop being true when we become an adult.

Desires have tremendous driving power and are always present. You cannot create them, diminish them or battle them. But we can expand them, sharpen them, channel them and give them a focus. To see your audience clearly, to hear the first signs of “Pick me, See me… I’m over here.”  We need to recognize what they need in order to feel valued.

What does your product or service provide your audience, which they actually want?

But it doesn’t stop there.

Second… RECOGNITION 

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And recognition can be even more powerful than raw desire. Each of us as human beings has a deep need to know where we belong. And when we don’t, we become uncomfortable and will do anything to correct that feeling.

What about tribes?

What role do we play… and what role do we want to play? How do others see us, and how do we see ourselves? Your brand is everything you communicate about your product or service, which means what you do counts more than what you say — because this is where the real point of connection is created.

Who does your product or service allow your audience to be?

I really love this question… I think it’s brilliant! This is where your audience decides, “Is this product or service something I would choose to identify with … or not?”

 Finally… BELIEF/VALUES

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If you want to see your audience or potential audience —respond with, Yes.. I See You Clearly! — connecting your beliefs/values is the best way to do that. Recognition was the primary driver of marketing in the 20th century, but it is belief/values that are the biggest driver today.

Currently, everything you do is transparent (because of the web) remember that you are communicating your beliefs through everything you do. The Real Deal motto around branding is… we are what we share and we share if we care.

What are the beliefs/values that formed your product or service?

Are you speaking to an audience that shares those beliefs/values?

If you want to influence… you must connect first. Yes… our audience is now serious grown-ups… But that small child inside them still has deep desires and a need for recognition. Good business is built on good relationships and good relationships form a sound community and there you have it – A TRIBE!

  • Demonstrating what you believe in will make that unbreakable connection.
  • Show them the role they can play and the tribe they can belong to.
  • Let them know that you can give them what they want.

Show your audience that you see them — you recognize, respect and reference them… and let them know that they are in the right place.

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Goodbye to Gossip

 

Hello Integrity….. Dear old gossip has become an addiction for many women.

It is seductive and builds an unhealthy intimacy among women, which creates false security. I believe the female species will come to a place of contentment when this persistent obstacle is corrected and transformed.

Gossip is connected to these four faces of addiction.

  • boredom
  • competition
  • drama
  • low self-esteem

Realizing this is the first step to healing the addiction – from there we can choose to participate in it or not.

It is said the point of power is in the present and poor old Gossip is never in the present she is always going on about what was said or happened in the past. She weaves her words for the purpose of separation, which create a divide in friendships, family and community.

Gossip keeps everyone small and is always driven by fear. Women have relied on gossip to define their position in society and culture for centuries, but it is not necessary anymore. Women now have the opportunity to rise up out of this unproductive damaging behavior and create a new and prosperous culture for all women.

Gossip is a shadow deity whose time and face has come to an end. She has upgraded to the face of “Integrity”, who is evolving into the New Woman, the New Humanity and therefore there is no place for these old behaviors.

I say it is time to put our temptation to spread rumors to bed and start being more creative with our female conversations, after all, we are extremely creative beings.

For the record, the gossip on me is “why does she always have to be… so in ya’ face” well my response to that is – at least it’s to your face and not behind your back and bitchin’ in the kitchen so to speak.

Guess it all started with that wicked old queen in the story of Snow White who’s famous last words were “Mirror, Mirror on the wall who’s the fairest of them all” now she had a serious bitchin’ addiction.

Hope you can take this refreshing idea into your relationships and watch them bloom into something far greater than girly catch ups.

 

Living With Desire

 

It’s imperative that we bring forth our soul’s greatest desires.

Our life is a gift not to be squandered and if we pick only one true heartfelt desire to achieve in our outer world and only one heartfelt desire to achieve in our inner world, we can aid in the betterment of the whole world. In fact, if it changes us individually for the better it most defiantly will change the world because after all we are all connected by the Divine Web of Creation.

You might ask, “Why is this important?” It is because desire is the spark that ignites the flame of your soul and illuminates your innate creativity, imagination, and vision. Through your pure, heartfelt intention you will summon one of the most powerful agents of change in the universe—Desire.

So imagine if we really got cooking and accessed all our creativity and heartfelt desires – perhaps we really could create world peace.

In its purest form, your soul’s desire is a magnet pulling you toward the life you want to live. Your desires will source you with the inspiration to release your outdated beliefs and let go of whatever behavior is keeping you stuck in the past.

Your soul’s desires compel you to grow, evolve and move closer to your highest potential. Beneath the surface of your ego’s insatiable cravings, your authentic desires are waiting patiently for you to recognize, declare and communicate them.

My passion and quest are this – I am committed to raising self-esteem in women, young children, young women and the men in their life – I see an urgent need to ignite hidden desires and to help people step aboard the creative flow of life.

Joyously lifting them up from a mundane material world to a place of purpose and full expression.

I see that many young people have lost the ability to be creative – they’ve been born into a world where life has been presented to them by the means of “whatʼs in it for me?” and sadly when one comes from a place of constantly taking, they lose sight of whatʼs real and have no vision or more seriously they don’t develop the ability to give of themselves creatively.

Of course, it is not only our youth, but we also have been spoon feed information now for a couple of decades and have forgotten what it is like to explore and play in the realm of our imagination, in some ways we have forgotten how to really think, play and feel. Finding one’s self is more than a little personal development, it is a journey into the extraordinary fabric of the unseen worlds and the ability to bring back the treasures you found there.

Itʼs the ability to bring them back to our world and develop them for the greater good of all.

That is what a true Artisan, Visionary or Leader is – they are not afraid to be different, they don’t ask whatʼs in it for me, they are jubilant and thrilled to live their life with passion and conviction. They know how great it feels to be in flow with all that is and to use the time that they have been given wisely and to the best of their ability.

I am not saying that the information age and globalization has been entirely bad but sometimes when there is so much to choose from we choose nothing or just take what we are told we need.

What if this is the Humanitarian Age!

I invite you to share what your real deal passions and desires are in your life?

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